For Better or For Worse by Lynn Johnston for June 07, 2022

good mental question there, John

Domestic hell

Panel 3: Kitteh on the nightstand can’t go wrong!

Compare to what. The bed you’re sleeping in now.

Just go with what style you like. Colonial? Mission? Farmhouse Chic? Rustic? Contemporary? I think your house looks mostly Colonial/traditional. Just choose a suite in that style. Furniture is primarily dark wood, a shiny finish, flat surfaces with small trims, and boxy and long legs. These are what I see in your living room, Elly. A lot of Colonial/Traditional textiles are stripped or floral. Yours are stripped. How you decorate your living room should continue throughout the house, except your children’s, of course. They should decide what they like.

Elly John doesn’t care as long as there’s a bed.

How about separate bedrooms, John??

At least then there won’t be another “oops” baby.

BTW, I wonder if that’s a real cat in panel #3.

I think John has just revealed that he likes his bedroom with the lights off.

SHE will see it.

I read a devotional on this exact thing yesterday: he’s a Satisfier— someone who just wants whatever is good enough. Ellie, on the other hand, is a Maximizer— she doesn’t want anything except the very best option. (Lesson was that Satsfiers are happier and waste less time on trivial things.)

Geez, enough picking on Ellie! She’s trying to make a cozy private nest for her and John. Not a thing wrong with that, or being picky.

I often dither about buying things myself, my husband generally tells me to put it in the basket or he will! LOL!

John can make a decision about a bedroom suite but in the end, Elly will make a final one. I suppose it’s just to go through the motions.

I was thinking about getting some new bedroom furniture, but every time opportunity arises, I keep thinking, why?

So nice of you to think of your wife as “no one,” John. She knows she is going to be living with that furniture for a while. She doesn’t want to regret it.

Friend’s mother would buy good furniture and then wrap it all in plastic!! And only company could use it.

A lot of emotional exchanges and solace take place commonly in the bedroom. Especially that of parents. When the thunder is too loud and the lightning too bright, and the dreams are too scary, where do the kids and pets go? When someone’s heart is broken, where do they go to comfort? When tempers flare and answers are complicated, when the day is too long but done, all the chores are done, the kids and pets are settled, nothing else can be done for the moment, where do the parents go? The aesthetics of a bedroom are critical for women as that is where it usually starts… and ends. The emotional support and comfort of a cozy room can open hearts, comfort sad souls, solve many issues. Aside from that, women like comfy things and to look good being comfy : )

I don’t even bother making my bed because I’m the only one who sees it. Plus, don’t get me started on all those pillows some of my friends have on their beds. Who has that kind of time? Throwing them off at night and then rearranging them in the morning? Nope.

I’ll be napping here, let me know when you make a decision. Helpful hint, keep the car keys with you.

Wait until she starts on her own Bathroom…

Guys don’t care about decorating until a room is full of pink flowers and frilly bows – and then all of a sudden they want a rustic cabin motif with bear/moose/elk silhouettes and plaid right out of LL Bean.

keep the old bed and just get a new mattress

She will see it most every night. Art can be for yourself

We have had the same 2 dressers for 53 years. No headboard. Works for us. He won’t be around to pick out the next set.

C’mon! The only important thing in a bedroom is the bed! As long as the mattress is comfortable for both of them to get a restful night’s sleep on, then the other stuff is really incidental!

One antique canopy bed with mosquito netting draw curtains coming up!!

I drove the wife nuts the first time we bought a new car. We were in and out in a little over an hour.

Decorating, like other things in a marriage, is done by the one with the best attitude and capability, i.e., my husband’s responsibilities are those he does the best – same for me. We’ve had a compatible marriage for 39 years, and we don’t get crazy about the other’s choices.

I might shop around for the best price if an item I want is sold by several vendors, but, generally, when I see the right one, I stop looking. When it’s right, it’s right. I could look at others, but it would be a waste of time and energy. I keep coming back to the “right one”. Actually, that’s how I chose my husband. He was the “right one”.

But somebody will see it — the two of you will see it. And you’ll see it a lot. You’ll see it every day, and so you’ll be constantly haunted by the decision you made. Better make it wisely…..

…or else figure out another way to come to terms with whatever you do decide. ;-)

I’m so glad both of us like good quality furniture and enjoy the hunt for it.

He has an excellent point

The styles she is looking at with us tagging along, are on the frilly side.

WAIT A MINUTE…..I’ve known some GUYS (and they weren’t/aren’t all GAY) who are just as picky!

WOW! All of these comments, and not ONE of you questioned WHY they are getting a new bedroom suite? Can’t they just move their current bedroom furniture into the new bedroom? Does the furniture have to be new just because the room is new?

After my wife and I spent close to 2 hours picking out an entire living room furniture set (for our newly remodeled living room) the sales person was in the process of writing it all up, and casually mentioned that the “delivery window” was looking to be between 12 and 15 months from now. WHAT?! Who would find that acceptable? Yes – we walked out, and went to an entirely different town and bought the furniture and had it delivered in about a week.

Apparently Jon thinks if non-family people are unlikely to see a room, it doesn’t matter how it looks. Also, just because Jon doesn’t care how their bedroom looks doesn’t mean Elly doesn’t.

Wallpaper? You’ll be sorry.

Setting aside the man vs woman debate (because it’s boring), if John seriously doesn’t care and will be happy with whatever Elly chooses, and she’s going to go with what SHE wants anyway, WHY drag him along?

Don’t get anything with ornate carvings, they’re torture to keep dusted & clean.