Up to 90% of the perpetrators of kidnapping, abuse, molestation, or murder of children are members of the child’s family or known to the family. A better training for children is to tell a parent when someone is being “tricky” and protect the child from being alone with that person.
Problem is, kidnappers don’t approach children, they SMILE at them, knowing that many parents hardly ever smile at their kids at home. If the child feels “safer” or “better”, they will approach the kidnapper instead, the kidnapper won’t need to do the approaching.
no, Marcy did not scream and run away as Joe was in his police uniform. Thus, the eye roll. Because I have been reading and enjoying Jump Start since Day 1. Which was many years and 2 states ago.
Here is a widely viewed clip of a mom teaching her baby, Yebin, to say “No” to strangers. I hope it is the first time for some of you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kN29b1-hhZ0
For Halloween as kids have costumes, and supervised, that is when not to scream and run away.For me I met my future husband at co-worker’s home he was visiting a friend and co-worker, he saw me before I saw him. Married and 39 years later.
“Stranger Danger” has been shown to be ineffective as a message. It doesn’t make sense to kids. For one thing, we leave them with strangers at the start of every new school year. For another, most abductions are by someone the child knows well. It also has some moral issues. Most religions encourage welcoming strangers. The Bible says, “I was a stranger and you welcomed me.” Finally, the Stranger Danger message has even caused children who are lost to hide from their rescuers.
My kids school did “Circles of Trust,” instead. I liked it much better. That training focused on circles of people you trust the most to those you trust the least in different circumstances. It also drilled home never going anywhere without permission from the adult in charge.
Have read that big problem is that children know not to talk to strangers but do not really know who a stranger is.
A man who walks down the street on a regular basis but is unknown to the family is a stranger that the child should not go with to the child that is someone they know. Someone from a store that is frequented or the postal delivery person also Even some neighbors should be considered strangers.
We have a little girl living in the house on either side of us. While we are neighbors we are strangers don’t even know what one of the fathers does for a living & just found less than a month ago (they moved in 5 years ago) what the mother does a living. We always say hello and wave to them – especially to the girls – but the girls should not go anywhere with either of us or come into our house without their parents okay – the parents know nothing us about us other than we live in the house, are older, and are reenactors (warn them in case they see us going out in same.) In an emergency we would of course help either girl but stay outside with her.
When I was in 8th grademy mom would let me walk home from school sometimes instead of my taking the school bus. On one walk home I met with a woman I had never seen before who had a baby in a carriage, since I had a baby sister at home I talked to the woman and found out as walked along that it was someone my mother knew due to both having babies. When I got home and told my mom about this I got a lecture. The woman was a stranger and I should not have talked to her. My answer was she had a baby and was a mom. My mother told me that did not she would not grab me and steal me away.
Best thing is to give children a specific list of who it is okay to talk to or ask for help and a code word in case even one of them tells the child to come with them as they were sent by parents who are hurt, have a problem, etc. The child should refuse to go without the code word and should not tell anyone the code word.
David Huie Green LosersBlameOthers&It'sYOURfault over 3 years ago
And yet he won your heart…
eromlig over 3 years ago
He chased her and chased her until she finally caught him.
aKG1 over 3 years ago
I’m guessing that they were introduced by a mutual friend.
jagedlo over 3 years ago
And yet, still…
Ellis97 over 3 years ago
Stranger danger.
vishooter over 3 years ago
Up to 90% of the perpetrators of kidnapping, abuse, molestation, or murder of children are members of the child’s family or known to the family. A better training for children is to tell a parent when someone is being “tricky” and protect the child from being alone with that person.
david_42 over 3 years ago
And virtually all missing children are either custody battles or runaways.
i_am_the_jam over 3 years ago
Problem is, kidnappers don’t approach children, they SMILE at them, knowing that many parents hardly ever smile at their kids at home. If the child feels “safer” or “better”, they will approach the kidnapper instead, the kidnapper won’t need to do the approaching.
Teto85 Premium Member over 3 years ago
My first wife was the one who first approached. I should have screamed and run away.
timbob2313 Premium Member over 3 years ago
no, Marcy did not scream and run away as Joe was in his police uniform. Thus, the eye roll. Because I have been reading and enjoying Jump Start since Day 1. Which was many years and 2 states ago.
don.fitzsimons over 3 years ago
Here is a widely viewed clip of a mom teaching her baby, Yebin, to say “No” to strangers. I hope it is the first time for some of you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kN29b1-hhZ0
bunwarpgazoo Premium Member over 3 years ago
This is so horribly toxic. Every stranger is dangerous? Wonder why americans find it so easy to hate ‘the other’? Maybe it starts here.
I'll fly away over 3 years ago
No you did not! You had “it” bad for him when you both were in school. Read your own story in Jump Start: A Love Story
kab2rb over 3 years ago
For Halloween as kids have costumes, and supervised, that is when not to scream and run away.For me I met my future husband at co-worker’s home he was visiting a friend and co-worker, he saw me before I saw him. Married and 39 years later.
Ukko wilko over 3 years ago
Paranoia strikes deep, Into your life it will creep. Sadly it isn’t totally unjustified.
jbarnes over 3 years ago
“Stranger Danger” has been shown to be ineffective as a message. It doesn’t make sense to kids. For one thing, we leave them with strangers at the start of every new school year. For another, most abductions are by someone the child knows well. It also has some moral issues. Most religions encourage welcoming strangers. The Bible says, “I was a stranger and you welcomed me.” Finally, the Stranger Danger message has even caused children who are lost to hide from their rescuers.
My kids school did “Circles of Trust,” instead. I liked it much better. That training focused on circles of people you trust the most to those you trust the least in different circumstances. It also drilled home never going anywhere without permission from the adult in charge.
mafastore over 3 years ago
Have read that big problem is that children know not to talk to strangers but do not really know who a stranger is.
A man who walks down the street on a regular basis but is unknown to the family is a stranger that the child should not go with to the child that is someone they know. Someone from a store that is frequented or the postal delivery person also Even some neighbors should be considered strangers.
We have a little girl living in the house on either side of us. While we are neighbors we are strangers don’t even know what one of the fathers does for a living & just found less than a month ago (they moved in 5 years ago) what the mother does a living. We always say hello and wave to them – especially to the girls – but the girls should not go anywhere with either of us or come into our house without their parents okay – the parents know nothing us about us other than we live in the house, are older, and are reenactors (warn them in case they see us going out in same.) In an emergency we would of course help either girl but stay outside with her.
When I was in 8th grademy mom would let me walk home from school sometimes instead of my taking the school bus. On one walk home I met with a woman I had never seen before who had a baby in a carriage, since I had a baby sister at home I talked to the woman and found out as walked along that it was someone my mother knew due to both having babies. When I got home and told my mom about this I got a lecture. The woman was a stranger and I should not have talked to her. My answer was she had a baby and was a mom. My mother told me that did not she would not grab me and steal me away.
Best thing is to give children a specific list of who it is okay to talk to or ask for help and a code word in case even one of them tells the child to come with them as they were sent by parents who are hurt, have a problem, etc. The child should refuse to go without the code word and should not tell anyone the code word.