Luann by Greg Evans and Karen Evans for May 11, 2016

you two could always just be in the “friend zone”

Abstinence, avoidance, whatever keeps the oven empty.

The moral of the story? Never upset the apple cart.-Especially if it’s full of grapefruit….

Sounds like the title of a best-selling tell-all book to me …

This banter means the game is still on.

A woman I knew back in college had arranged a five-year plan with a guy she’d broken up with years ago. Every five years, on the anniversary of a particular event for the two of them, they would meet at a particular place, No Matter What.

If they were both single, they’d consider starting things back up for a while. If one or the other was in a relationship, they’d go for coffee and catch up with one another’s last five years, then go their separate ways for another five.

I have no idea what happened. Haven’t been in touch with the lady myself for several decades.

I think Q and Lu are being quite mature about this. Maybe they’ll get back together later, when they’ve both had time to establish parts of their lives that need to take priority right now. No shame in that.

Join us for our next exciting episode “A Tale of Two Quitters” or “It’s Lonely at the Stop”.

“A Site For Sorrys”“Don’t Wreck The Concilliatory” “Taking A Stand For Concessions”“Abstinence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder”“The Picture Of Resolution”“Chemical Interactions”“The Dance Of Avoidance”“Well Enough Alone”“Sail On..Still” (♫)“The Way We Weren’t” (♫)“There Ain’t No Good Guy, There Ain’t No Bad Guy…” (♪)“Only You And Me” (♪)And“We Just Disagree…” (♫)

Potato, potahto, tomato, tomahto…they still all fit into a pot and a kettle- and go nicely into salads..

Over at Arca Max they were arguing that it was unrealistic for these 2 to be able to have a civil conversation. I have never understood why people have to hate each other after a breakup.

Friends WITHOUT benefits!

The fat lady hasn’t sung yet in this relationship. They’re not having a civil conversation, they’re flirting. This is playful banter leading to them getting back together.

It sounds to me he never really cared for her, or he really loves her and it is just too painful to keep running into each other.

God I wish Quill would go away! I’d like to see some actual progress in this story.

Yes, that’s why you were The Church Lady’s favorite couple.

sad but true. its not their time yet.

Time to avoid abstinence with others I’d say.

Way to go Quill and Luann! Talking very openly, good communication.

Uhhhh, What She MEANT Was, Too Much “You” and Not Enough “HER,” Pretty-Boy, and THAT Ain’t Gonna Change. EVER.

So You Two can START “Avoiding” Each Now, Like MOST of the Couples that have Broken in the World Do.

So Start “Avoiding.”

Are You “Avoiding??”

We’ll WAIT……,

Better than pregnancy followed by avoidance which could have been followed by abortion, adoption or adulthood

There is reason to avoid each other. They both know the reason for the break up is the lack of time available for each other. That is a good reason to break up, but it isn’t a good reason to not see each other even in passing by.

Just sticking around to chat a little has already made matters healthier and a lot less “weird” between them, but a feeling of guardedness around an ex doesn’t ever go away entirely, in my experience.

Just maybe if Quill was getting some he would have made the relationship more of a priority. I suppose on some planets casual sex leads to relationship commitment and emotional intimacy. Let us know how that works out.

This exchange is friendly; all hostility is gone.

My aunt and uncle with the strongest and happiest marriage did not meet until both were at ages where a number of compatriots with far less happy marriages had been together for many decades. They realized they fit and soon wound up marrying at the age of 40 for her and 50 for him. They were married for 46 years. Yes, there were those around them who thought they were failures for not marrying sooner, but luckily neither of them accepted that definition. If that had happened they never would have even tried. They became an example for me, and their marriage provided examples for both of us. Obviously, they were not failures. Did they have relationships that failed before they met? Well, it is also obvious that there were strings of those, but those were like practice session to learn from or as Jim says they were like tryouts.

Isn’t having a job part of his visa requirements?

Well, you can change that story, can’t you, Luann? I mean now that you’ve been to Nyawk, ridden the subway and spent six minutes in the Club Foote and gotten all sophisticatified, right?

Maybe, just maybe, Quill lost interest in Luann because they waited

Life goes on, somehow so do weJust how I do it is still a mysteryOne by one, I try to fill the daysEven though we went somewhat separate ways.Sometimes the answers can be hard to findThat’s something I may never seeMessing up your mindThat just ain’t me.I’ll be around for anything you need‘Though we broke up, took different trailsThink of this note which you readLife goes on e’en when love derails

How about a new hair style for Luanne. It’s time.

They are both being so mature and pleasant, I love it. There is no reason they cannot be friends.

Lu & Qu, if you do “weird” often enough, it becomes “normal”. Hang in there.

I’m afraid you can’t avoid it, kids. Something has to give here, and it may be one of you….

If you are suggesting that I over-shared, you may be right.

activist1234 said, 13 minutes agoLu & Qu, if you do “weird” often enough, it becomes “normal”. Hang in there.LOL! Every new way of looking at things is weird at first! (That is just a different way of saying the same thing, of course.). A lot of what seems weird at first turn out to be treasures – not all, of course, but more than enough to realize that life is learning and learning is life.

at first I was thinking of Luann’s remark (about work) in the broad sense, i.e. that if maintaining a relationship with someone you love seems like too much work, then something is wrong. But now I think she was probably just referring (once again) to Quill’s work and his devotion to it, not the work of maintaining a relationship……… though they could be seen as related.

I think they will wind up together at least once more … But not for a while

Who will lu bring as a date to brad and daytonas wedding?

Gunther?

@ Ken H , your words are sagacious, “This banter means the game is still on.” Yup. I’d like to see them get back on that couch & turn up the heat a bit. There are a lot of fun ‘places’ you can go without risking pregnancy; wouldn’t it be a ground breaker to see them go there (offstage of course); have fun, and not go all the way…. How radical! … Witnessed by a bazillion Luann fans, young and old. Or, she could get with Emo art class boy (a diamond in the rough), that’d be interesting too.

Either make this work or Quill should go away. No one wants a half-torn off band-aid. Being buddies just feels false somehow.

Apologies that i had to skim a number of posts today. Thanks to all who mentioned Wm Conrad!

JPuzzleWhiz said, about 1 hour ago@IamJayBluE“Abstinence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder”

Or, in their case, “go yonder”!

- -It could get truly silly if both were fonder of Wander over Yonder. (Steve cringes when i have my rare binges of that…)

I wish i had had time to read more of today’s posts more deeply. There were some very thoughtful and perceptive ones today that really got me thinking. I hope i did not miss some other valuable ones.

@IamJayBluE“Abstinence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder”.…of someone else.