Stone Soup by Jan Eliot for April 28, 2010

Marriage? What’s the rush? Have some fun first!

Asked? Oh…………

A man chases a woman until she catches him.

uh, what’s the matter with the woman asking? Don’t we live in the 21st century? ;)

Hmm, well since the relationship thing hasn’t been moving forward unil NOW. I’d be cauious about getting into a relationship.

Thou, I agree with Hildigunnur, you got be go getter in this century. Just plain ask him.

Stay a bachelor, Phil.

A man is a “Work-in-Progress” … until he gets married!

THEN - he’s finished!

If she has to ask other people…hmmm…probably not~~

My roommate asked me if I thought she should marry the guy she was dating after only a month. It wasn’t really a should I marry him right now question, but does he seem to you like the type of guy I should marry question.

My only response was, “Not now.”

As a survivor of 34 years of Holy Deadlock I know marriage can be a lot of fun. Especially now when I can’t hear high pitches, and she can’t hear low pitche, which means we have a hard time hearing each other.

Over 29 years ago that is what I came close to doing after dating my future husband for over a year we both weren’t ready and just enjoyed each other and we did not live with each other saw one another on weekends we both worked at different types of jobs. I had to kinda hint where we we’re headed so he said lets get married but did it backwards. We both selected the rings then he proposed. I have and aunt and uncle who met over 60 years ago he met his future wife at a restaurant said lets get married and because it was late went elsewhere and married the next day. Four kids later and several grandkids and greatgrand kids still married. My own parents married 2 months after meeting, my sister and her husband did the same thing and my sister can’t have kids. None of them lived together.

In my own opinion you all will get mad but as far as I’m concerned when you live together your getting it for free but nothing to tie each other together the other can still step out since no marriage and no commitment.

Val if your unsure just wait and get to know Phil more.

Took me 38 years to find the right woman.

I’m with Wally, here. If he hasn’t asked, there’s no point in this discussion!

there is no need to get married right away, first get to know each other then proceed to know each others little quirks

See: SHOE < April 28, 2010. Answers all questions!

Quick, Wally, go warn Phil to run while he can! ;-)

LOL, ursen1! :-) Kab Buch, I agree with your living together statement and should really join your family. My husband and I got engaged after a month and a half, and here we are 10 years later.

Sorry, Kab Buch, but getting married doesn’t prevent anyone from leaving, it just makes it more legally complicated. Also, people who aren’t married can be just as commited to each other as married couples.

“In my own opinion you all will get mad but as far as I’m concerned when you live together your getting it for free but nothing to tie each other together the other can still step out since no marriage and no commitment.”

Why would we get mad? In addition to sotadragon’s point, some people would consider your statement ample reason not to get married. If a relationship goes bad, sometimes it can be saved and sometimes it can’t. If it can’t be saved, it doesn’t serve anyone’s interest to make it difficult (or impossible) to end. Marriage shouldn’t be entered into lightly, and once entered into it shouldn’t be exited lightly, but that doesn’t mean that “Til death do us part” is always the best option.

People who stick in bad marriages do more disservice to the institution than people who divorce or who don’t marry at all. But hey, “That’s the way I always heard it should be…”

Here’s the problem. A woman is thinking marriage after she’s been dating a guy for three weeks. A Guy won’t even admit that marriage is a possibility until at least six months into a relationship. The reason is a guy thinks that a woman thinks “If it doesn’t work out, I’ll just console myself with half of all his money.” I know too many divorced and widowed men who say they’ll never get married again simply because they don’t want a woman telling them that She nows better than he does how he should be living his life, so she’s going to tell him how to live it. What he can eat and not eat. How he can dress and not dress, where he can go and not go, Who his friends will be and not be, how he will spend his money and not spend his money. They say they just don’t need it any more. The benefits of marriage just aren’t worth it.

haha up here it’s much more of a rule than an exception that people live together before marrying - or indeed if they choose to marry at all. Nobody minds.

I proposed to my husband 3 weeks into dating - he didn’t expect that but definitely wasn’t unhappy about it. (3rd boyfriend and no way would I have proposed to the first 2). Got married a year later, 21 extremely happy years have passed, I wouldn’t change places with ANYONE :D