I haven’t spoken to my brother in over 15 years… for something that I was wrong and was in every way my fault… But admitting it would be totally humiliating and embarrassing for me…
People don’t like to admit they are wrong much less apologize for being wrong. The harder part, I think, is trying to go back to normal after an incident that required the apology. Once you’ve shown your vulnerability, it isn’t easy to be around the one who has seen it. Don’t care how people will say that it isn’t a vulnerability to apologize, it really is.
My oldest sister has not only not spoken to her daughter (who’s age 36 now) for about 5 yrs. My sister is petty and unforgiving and everything is about HER. If you disagree with her or do something she doesn’t like, you’re GONE. She used to be a cosmetologist and recommended a hair product; I chose something else and she went OFF like “Don’t EVER ask me for help with anything! Nobody ever listens to me! I’m always wrong!”. Her daughter lives in TX and has 3 children; the last time they saw each other was when the first one was born, nearly 5 yrs ago. Katie was in labor but Anne felt nobody was paying enough attention to HER (Anne) and they haven’t spoken since. My sister not only denies her grandchildren, but has “adopted” a few neighborhood children as her “grandchildren” and they are even in her will! MY only child was killed 27 yrs ago – at the age of NINE. I cannot imagine cutting off my child and grandchildren, but then again, my sister is so vicious and TOXIC that my other sister had to move away from the town they both live in just to get away from her and our poor parents (87 y/o) have to suffer. It makes my heart sick. Anne does not know how to love – only control and manipulate via emotional extortion – agree with her or you’re cut out of her life (but that might not be a bad thing). 3 yrs ago, I went to visit an old friend (I’ve known for 37 yrs) in TX and Katie lives nearby; Anne found out I’d gone to visit her as well and WENT OFF!!! I was cut off for about 2 yrs. I’m on her good side (for now).
My mother threw the silent treatment at me about a week before I started my senior year in high school and it did not end until I returned to the USA after medical school. Best 9 years of my life up to that point. It took her that long to realize she had been wrong and needed to apologize.
jmworacle over 3 years ago
So?
A Common 'tator over 3 years ago
I haven’t spoken to my brother in over 15 years… for something that I was wrong and was in every way my fault… But admitting it would be totally humiliating and embarrassing for me…
Doctor Toon over 3 years ago
Silence is golden, from some people its worth even more
Gent over 3 years ago
And then there are the shameless ones who don’t apologise to you and don’t stop speaking to you also.
dflak over 3 years ago
Never admit that you are wrong. That’s a sign of weakness. Only losers admit that they are wrong. Winners “double down.” /S
Michael G. over 3 years ago
Sorry, were you speaking to me?
Phrosty 12Oaks over 3 years ago
People don’t like to admit they are wrong much less apologize for being wrong. The harder part, I think, is trying to go back to normal after an incident that required the apology. Once you’ve shown your vulnerability, it isn’t easy to be around the one who has seen it. Don’t care how people will say that it isn’t a vulnerability to apologize, it really is.
pheets over 3 years ago
Welcome to human nature.
dayle2 over 3 years ago
Happy printdayle2 about 1 hour ago
My oldest sister has not only not spoken to her daughter (who’s age 36 now) for about 5 yrs. My sister is petty and unforgiving and everything is about HER. If you disagree with her or do something she doesn’t like, you’re GONE. She used to be a cosmetologist and recommended a hair product; I chose something else and she went OFF like “Don’t EVER ask me for help with anything! Nobody ever listens to me! I’m always wrong!”. Her daughter lives in TX and has 3 children; the last time they saw each other was when the first one was born, nearly 5 yrs ago. Katie was in labor but Anne felt nobody was paying enough attention to HER (Anne) and they haven’t spoken since. My sister not only denies her grandchildren, but has “adopted” a few neighborhood children as her “grandchildren” and they are even in her will! MY only child was killed 27 yrs ago – at the age of NINE. I cannot imagine cutting off my child and grandchildren, but then again, my sister is so vicious and TOXIC that my other sister had to move away from the town they both live in just to get away from her and our poor parents (87 y/o) have to suffer. It makes my heart sick. Anne does not know how to love – only control and manipulate via emotional extortion – agree with her or you’re cut out of her life (but that might not be a bad thing). 3 yrs ago, I went to visit an old friend (I’ve known for 37 yrs) in TX and Katie lives nearby; Anne found out I’d gone to visit her as well and WENT OFF!!! I was cut off for about 2 yrs. I’m on her good side (for now).
Holden Awn over 3 years ago
Yeah. Democrats and Republicans. Mutually.
Teto85 Premium Member over 3 years ago
My mother threw the silent treatment at me about a week before I started my senior year in high school and it did not end until I returned to the USA after medical school. Best 9 years of my life up to that point. It took her that long to realize she had been wrong and needed to apologize.
paranormal over 3 years ago
That’s better for you Aunty!!!
cuzinron47 over 3 years ago
Works for me.
bakana over 3 years ago
There are some people in this world whom you just have to keep hitting until they apologize.