I used to work with a girl that wore full makeup and sexy nighties to bed every night, and her husband never saw her without her makeup. It was a shock to her when 3 years into her marriage he left for a lady with a more realistic lifestyle. HE is still married and happy, SHE is single, again. Been over 20 years too.
I suppose that couples learn, and get used to some kind of routine – using the bathroom, whether together, apart, or even separate bathrooms. Same bed, different beds, different rooms, however, and whatever works.(I’ve never married, so no; I wouldn’t know.)
My husband never liked for me to wear long gowns or PJs to bed even when it was cold. I would put on socks and snuggle up under him until I was warm enough. I would wear cute nighties for him. As far as make up goes, he never cared much for it. He said I was pretty enough without. I would put on a little just to satisfy MY ego. Even when he snored and I thought of sleeping in another room, that was a no no. I just put in ear plugs. We had 33 years of love and respect. Wish I could hear him snoring again.
I figure the magic is over the first time the bathroom door is left open on purpose. It’s different for everyone, there is no formula. It is simply a matter of trade out.
My wife and I have both been married and divorced before meeting. We both know what there is to lose and work at keeping the bond. No, it’s not perfect, but it works for us. Never in the bathroom at the same time but only one bed in the house for us.
I know what you mean. I’m 44 and I had some trouble moving around for about 3 days after working all day in my yard last Monday. Every muscle in my body seemed to ache and it took quite a while for things to get back to normal again. Unfortunately, that was just the beginning of yet another summer of those constant aches and pains for me because of all the yard work there is to do. I’m SO getting too old for this kind of stuff!!!!! :-(
I agree with most of you. I met my man when I was just 1 year divorced and he was on the cusp (having not yet filed) but I have loved him ever since, and though I moved across the country to AZ, I never considered looking for anyone else. Last year in July we got together during a 4 week trip I took for my daughter’s 3rd wedding and I think we both realized it was time (in our mid 70s) but he has a new Jacuzzi in his bathroom that is fun to share, with satin sheets on the bed (abet poly-satin ;-) it was beautiful. I was back tor the Christmas NewYears and he had a bad case of the flu so I spent Christmas week at my daughter’s and went to some parties with her (He had planned some with his 2 daughters and their families, but stayed in bed). He was feeling better after that and part of the time his older daughter was with us at his house. They knew me from way back and are FB friends of mine. The week I was at daughters was a good opportunity to get to know her new hubby (we are early risers, usually).
I have not decided just when I’ll do my next trip there, but I am taking better care of myself now that love is alive again. Only problem is HBP that has so far caused no “events”. I keep my weight down and exercise daily (BMI=23) and am doing a VERY strict diet of no alcohol, meat, cheese, whole eggs, gluten, coffee, tea, sweeteners (other than Stevia) and even limited fruit. He is considering “trying” my diet but is not seeing a doctor to supervise (says I’m his doctor) so he has no tests to show where any problems may lie.
My tests show that my Cortisol is extremely high (28.9) and yet he has me taking 25mg of DHEA on arising every day; next appointment is next Monday and I want to ask about that because it seems counter-intuitive. That is sold mostly to men with a T problem; I’m a woman of 75 who enjoys everything enjoyable ;-D My man is just 9 months younger than I and still does physical work full time in his own business. We both hop to enjoy life for another 20 years unless the gv’mt takes away what the market has not already taken.
But that’s what makes people great! I’m 63, overweight, with heart lung and prostate problems and I still believe one day I’m going to wake up cured and ready to go another 63!
Sounds like you need to cut back on the yard work. Or at least not spend so much time on it daily. I wouldn’t want you to hurt yourself now.
Thanks. That’s so sweet of you to be concerned! I don’t like doing yard work so I try to spend as little time out there it as I can. As long as it’s not roasting hot, I’m usually out there pulling the weeds about once a week. Our house is on approx. 1/4 acres and it’s completely landscaped all the way around with plants, bushes and mulch so there’s a LOT to do. I try to do it all in one day so that I don’t have to come out another day to finish it up but that’s not always possible. I either work until it’s too hot or I’m just too tired to go on any longer then quit for the day. Last week all the weeding work was especially bad because that was the first time I had been out doing anything since the start of winter. But we just put down some new weed-barrier fabric in a few places along with some new mulch and my husband has promised to be better about using the weed-eater so maybe things won’t be nearly as bad for me and my poor body this summer as it usually is. Oh, how I’d just LOVE to move into a condo complex like the one my mother lives in. Sure, writing a $125.00 monthly maintenance fee check to the Condo Association would hurt a little bit . . . but to NEVER again pull another weed, mow another blade of grass, trim another shrub, apply fertilizer/weed killer at the “right” time, paint the house or shovel snow? Now that would be PRICELESS!!!!!!!!!! ;-)
we bought our house in 98 … 1/2 acre in suburbia … I love it, though yard work is a pain sometimes … prior owner wanted to get away from all the yard work into a condo complex … I love to see things grow … I pace myself and only do some projects every other week … prior owner had a system – he’d start a yard project, and do it wrong on purpose – his wife would come out and see it was wrong – tell him to go back inside and she’d finish it … sneaky dude … per our relationship, will be 24 years in Aug … you can be comfortable but you still need to work on it daily … we kiss and hug with abandon, even in front of our kids … we have a 99 year lease on our marriage with a 5 second renewal clause to cancel, then another 99 year automatic new lease starts again. I figure I can distract her for the 5 seconds … ;-)
ReneTray about 11 years ago
“UMM could be.”
locuravamp about 11 years ago
Can’t be candle-light and roses ALL the time
WillardMBaker about 11 years ago
Just wait. Eventually you’ll end up in separate bedrooms.
tripwire45 about 11 years ago
Welcome to middle age.
jeanie5448 about 11 years ago
I used to work with a girl that wore full makeup and sexy nighties to bed every night, and her husband never saw her without her makeup. It was a shock to her when 3 years into her marriage he left for a lady with a more realistic lifestyle. HE is still married and happy, SHE is single, again. Been over 20 years too.
sjsczurek about 11 years ago
I suppose that couples learn, and get used to some kind of routine – using the bathroom, whether together, apart, or even separate bathrooms. Same bed, different beds, different rooms, however, and whatever works.(I’ve never married, so no; I wouldn’t know.)
samfran6-0 about 11 years ago
My husband never liked for me to wear long gowns or PJs to bed even when it was cold. I would put on socks and snuggle up under him until I was warm enough. I would wear cute nighties for him. As far as make up goes, he never cared much for it. He said I was pretty enough without. I would put on a little just to satisfy MY ego. Even when he snored and I thought of sleeping in another room, that was a no no. I just put in ear plugs. We had 33 years of love and respect. Wish I could hear him snoring again.
js305 about 11 years ago
I figure the magic is over the first time the bathroom door is left open on purpose. It’s different for everyone, there is no formula. It is simply a matter of trade out.
My wife and I have both been married and divorced before meeting. We both know what there is to lose and work at keeping the bond. No, it’s not perfect, but it works for us. Never in the bathroom at the same time but only one bed in the house for us.
ldg about 11 years ago
Just like USTWO!!
prrdh about 11 years ago
On the other hand, if it took her this long to notice, maybe there’s still hope.
Mickeylacey about 11 years ago
wow don’t harsh my mellow !!!! i’m 67 and having the best time of my life retired.
legaleagle48 about 11 years ago
Gretchen's Mom about 11 years ago
There’s still PLENTY of magic left in our house and we’ve been married for 24 years now!!!!! ;-)
Gretchen's Mom about 11 years ago
I know what you mean. I’m 44 and I had some trouble moving around for about 3 days after working all day in my yard last Monday. Every muscle in my body seemed to ache and it took quite a while for things to get back to normal again. Unfortunately, that was just the beginning of yet another summer of those constant aches and pains for me because of all the yard work there is to do. I’m SO getting too old for this kind of stuff!!!!! :-(
vldazzle about 11 years ago
I agree with most of you. I met my man when I was just 1 year divorced and he was on the cusp (having not yet filed) but I have loved him ever since, and though I moved across the country to AZ, I never considered looking for anyone else. Last year in July we got together during a 4 week trip I took for my daughter’s 3rd wedding and I think we both realized it was time (in our mid 70s) but he has a new Jacuzzi in his bathroom that is fun to share, with satin sheets on the bed (abet poly-satin ;-) it was beautiful. I was back tor the Christmas NewYears and he had a bad case of the flu so I spent Christmas week at my daughter’s and went to some parties with her (He had planned some with his 2 daughters and their families, but stayed in bed). He was feeling better after that and part of the time his older daughter was with us at his house. They knew me from way back and are FB friends of mine. The week I was at daughters was a good opportunity to get to know her new hubby (we are early risers, usually).
I have not decided just when I’ll do my next trip there, but I am taking better care of myself now that love is alive again. Only problem is HBP that has so far caused no “events”. I keep my weight down and exercise daily (BMI=23) and am doing a VERY strict diet of no alcohol, meat, cheese, whole eggs, gluten, coffee, tea, sweeteners (other than Stevia) and even limited fruit. He is considering “trying” my diet but is not seeing a doctor to supervise (says I’m his doctor) so he has no tests to show where any problems may lie.
My tests show that my Cortisol is extremely high (28.9) and yet he has me taking 25mg of DHEA on arising every day; next appointment is next Monday and I want to ask about that because it seems counter-intuitive. That is sold mostly to men with a T problem; I’m a woman of 75 who enjoys everything enjoyable ;-D My man is just 9 months younger than I and still does physical work full time in his own business. We both hop to enjoy life for another 20 years unless the gv’mt takes away what the market has not already taken.
JP Steve Premium Member about 11 years ago
But that’s what makes people great! I’m 63, overweight, with heart lung and prostate problems and I still believe one day I’m going to wake up cured and ready to go another 63!
“Go not gently into that good night…”
loves raising duncan about 11 years ago
That’s getting a little too comfortable in your Marriage!
Gretchen's Mom about 11 years ago
Sounds like you need to cut back on the yard work. Or at least not spend so much time on it daily. I wouldn’t want you to hurt yourself now.
Thanks. That’s so sweet of you to be concerned! I don’t like doing yard work so I try to spend as little time out there it as I can. As long as it’s not roasting hot, I’m usually out there pulling the weeds about once a week. Our house is on approx. 1/4 acres and it’s completely landscaped all the way around with plants, bushes and mulch so there’s a LOT to do. I try to do it all in one day so that I don’t have to come out another day to finish it up but that’s not always possible. I either work until it’s too hot or I’m just too tired to go on any longer then quit for the day. Last week all the weeding work was especially bad because that was the first time I had been out doing anything since the start of winter. But we just put down some new weed-barrier fabric in a few places along with some new mulch and my husband has promised to be better about using the weed-eater so maybe things won’t be nearly as bad for me and my poor body this summer as it usually is. Oh, how I’d just LOVE to move into a condo complex like the one my mother lives in. Sure, writing a $125.00 monthly maintenance fee check to the Condo Association would hurt a little bit . . . but to NEVER again pull another weed, mow another blade of grass, trim another shrub, apply fertilizer/weed killer at the “right” time, paint the house or shovel snow? Now that would be PRICELESS!!!!!!!!!! ;-)
Beleck3 about 11 years ago
good to see such conversations about real life
rugratz2222 about 11 years ago
we bought our house in 98 … 1/2 acre in suburbia … I love it, though yard work is a pain sometimes … prior owner wanted to get away from all the yard work into a condo complex … I love to see things grow … I pace myself and only do some projects every other week … prior owner had a system – he’d start a yard project, and do it wrong on purpose – his wife would come out and see it was wrong – tell him to go back inside and she’d finish it … sneaky dude … per our relationship, will be 24 years in Aug … you can be comfortable but you still need to work on it daily … we kiss and hug with abandon, even in front of our kids … we have a 99 year lease on our marriage with a 5 second renewal clause to cancel, then another 99 year automatic new lease starts again. I figure I can distract her for the 5 seconds … ;-)