This is something I hate about the post-2000 years.
Genuine niceness seems to have been obliterated from the collective hivemind of society.
If a man tries to be nice to a woman, he’s either coming on to her down the line or he’s gay.
The former has been used so many times by pickup artists who think with the wrong head that it’s impossible now for someone to be truly nice.
The latter is becoming such a commonplace concept that I feel the concept of being caring and sensitive is being gradually erased from society.
Being a parent is a proper definition of masculinity. Not a 60s muscle car or a Harley, not a rack of custom-tailored Armanis, not a yacht and brownstone – being a parent.
Being mature enough to raise a child is a definition of being a man. Being wise enough and devoted enough to put nurturing your child as foremost to you – and that includes banking enough for higher education into a fund you’ll ensure you never touch – is what being a man is about, not all the oversized toys.
Single parents have it hard enough, especially if they’re heterosexual men. (I think everyone here is overfamiliar with the difficulties of single moms, but not enough with single dads.)
Which is why I’m writing a book on how a divorced dad from Minnesota and a never-married adoptive mom of two from Punjab found something special, even if the all-time-low exchange rate between India and the U.S. has forced them to temporarily part because he can’t make child support on her side of the world. (It doesn’t help that Indians are phobic about therapy.)
I write because otherwise, things like the concept of worth, labor, and respect for work would be forgotten. It’s also why I’m a professional scholar. (The things I do to earn a Ph.D…)
If nobody gets what I’m trying to say, watch the stage version of “Superior Donuts” and then it might make sense. (The small-screen version loses a few things in translation.)
Actually, a gay man may be the perfect husband: keeps a neat, nicely-decorated home, does domestic chores far better and with much less complaint than a straight male, is a good provider, mannered, and makes no unusual sexual demands on the wife. Unless all that is a devious plot, in which case he’s a conniving a**hole, to be avoided at all costs. One simple test: put a NFL game on the 60-incher; if he can walk past without looking he’s for real.But overall, Michael (above) is correct: the single mom tale is one told all too well; the single male parent has been lost in the telling.
I was called gay (and less polite synonyms) in the 1970s because I didn’t indulge in what some have tried to excuse as “just locker room talk.” I took Martin Luther’s view that such comes under the heading of Adultery.
Michael Thorton almost 6 years ago
This is something I hate about the post-2000 years.
Genuine niceness seems to have been obliterated from the collective hivemind of society.
If a man tries to be nice to a woman, he’s either coming on to her down the line or he’s gay.
The former has been used so many times by pickup artists who think with the wrong head that it’s impossible now for someone to be truly nice.
The latter is becoming such a commonplace concept that I feel the concept of being caring and sensitive is being gradually erased from society.
Being a parent is a proper definition of masculinity. Not a 60s muscle car or a Harley, not a rack of custom-tailored Armanis, not a yacht and brownstone – being a parent.
Being mature enough to raise a child is a definition of being a man. Being wise enough and devoted enough to put nurturing your child as foremost to you – and that includes banking enough for higher education into a fund you’ll ensure you never touch – is what being a man is about, not all the oversized toys.
Single parents have it hard enough, especially if they’re heterosexual men. (I think everyone here is overfamiliar with the difficulties of single moms, but not enough with single dads.)
Which is why I’m writing a book on how a divorced dad from Minnesota and a never-married adoptive mom of two from Punjab found something special, even if the all-time-low exchange rate between India and the U.S. has forced them to temporarily part because he can’t make child support on her side of the world. (It doesn’t help that Indians are phobic about therapy.)
I write because otherwise, things like the concept of worth, labor, and respect for work would be forgotten. It’s also why I’m a professional scholar. (The things I do to earn a Ph.D…)
If nobody gets what I’m trying to say, watch the stage version of “Superior Donuts” and then it might make sense. (The small-screen version loses a few things in translation.)
The Pro from Dover almost 6 years ago
Wow.
Serial Pedant almost 6 years ago
Actually, a gay man may be the perfect husband: keeps a neat, nicely-decorated home, does domestic chores far better and with much less complaint than a straight male, is a good provider, mannered, and makes no unusual sexual demands on the wife. Unless all that is a devious plot, in which case he’s a conniving a**hole, to be avoided at all costs. One simple test: put a NFL game on the 60-incher; if he can walk past without looking he’s for real.But overall, Michael (above) is correct: the single mom tale is one told all too well; the single male parent has been lost in the telling.
mourdac Premium Member almost 6 years ago
The 40 year old virgin?
gcarlson almost 6 years ago
I was called gay (and less polite synonyms) in the 1970s because I didn’t indulge in what some have tried to excuse as “just locker room talk.” I took Martin Luther’s view that such comes under the heading of Adultery.
bakana almost 6 years ago
When I was in the navy, one of the guys used to be in the habit of breaking down and Crying while talking to women he’d just met.
He’d tearfully confess that he was Gay and that he Hated himself for it. Maybe even hint about thoughts of Suicide.
He used to get “Cured” of his “Gayness” about once a week.
This only works where there is a steady supply of Tourist women to cry on.
MichelleZProvencher over 5 years ago
Depends on what they mean by ‘making a move.’ If he is respectful, that’s fine, if he’s never even kissed me after many dates, I would wonder. shrugs