Zen Pencils by Gavin Aung Than for January 11, 2016
January 04, 2016
January 18, 2016
Transcript:
Certainly, the most destructive vice that a person can have, more than pride, which is supposedly the number one of the cardinal sins… …is self-pity. Self-pity will destroy relationships. It will destroy anything that’s good. It will fulfill all the prophecies it makes and leave only itself. It is so simple to imagine that one is hard done by and that things are unfair. DING DONG That one is under-appreciated. And that if only one had a chance at this or if only one had a chance at that… …things would have gone better. I almost wanted once to publish a self-help book saying… HOW TO BE HAPPY by Stephen Fry GUARANTEED SUCCESS! MOVING ON SO SHE LEFT YOU COPING WITH HEARTBREAK LOVE HURTS And people would buy this huge book… …and the first page would just say… Stop feeling sorry for yourself and you will be happy. Use the rest of this book to write down your interesting thoughts and drawings. And that’s what the book would be. And it would be true. It sounds like “Oh, that’s so simple.” But, of course, it’s not simple to stop feeling sorry for yourself. It’s bloody hard. - Stephen Fry
Carl Premium Member over 8 years ago
Self Pity is based on Pride.
Vet Premium Member over 8 years ago
Recovery has to come from you……just take that first step.
6turtle9 over 8 years ago
Two sides of the same coin. The coin as a whole is part of being human and is currency that is never depleted unless you become delusional, then it is about as healthy as playing a slot machine. Bankruptcy is inevitable.
mr_sherman Premium Member over 8 years ago
Keep the lessons, dump the pain.
live.the.future over 8 years ago
I’ve felt the same way as Mr. Fry about self-pity. It’s not just a useless emotion, but utterly self-defeating and counter-productive. I dislike self-pity in others, and detest it in myself. Self-pity kills hope and blinds one to the possibilities and opportunities that surround us.
tammyspeakslife Premium Member over 8 years ago
I like Stephen Fry’s BBC tv show Kingdom about “Peter’s thriving legal practice, he must deal with his dysfunctional family (which includes his unstable sister) and his grief over his missing half brother and law partner, Simon.”
nawsa Premium Member over 8 years ago
I think self-pity is sometimes legitimate. But the subject needs to know that the rest of the world may not notice or be able to respond and he still needs to get on with living.