No doubt there are people who warehouse old relatives in a nursing home just to get them out of their hair…in an old-movie cliché about an “old folks home”, that is. Three things wrong with that scenario in the real world:.(1) Most people in a modern nursing home are there out of medical necessity — these places are nursing homes, and the residents require physical/medical assistance and care on a more-or-less continual basis. Those who don’t need that level of care belong in a senior housing or assisted living facility if they’re unable to remain in their own homes..(2) Actual nursing homes don’t want, and won’t accept, patients who don’t truly need the level of care they provide. They need the beds and the staff for those who do.,(3) Nursing homes are expensive. More families are impoverished by supporting a relative in a nursing home than are ever able to stash grandpa there just because they want to and can afford it..There are exceptions, of course. And senior living housing and assisted living facilities can be dreary and lonely (not to mention expensive) if the real problem is that no one cares about the ones who live there..But Earl doesn’t have to worry about that at this point. He’s a reasonably healthy, pretty likable old coot, and he’s on good terms with his extended family, as far as we know. And it doesn’t sould like anyone could afford to put him anywhere!
I’m only 34 and both my natural parents are gone, I’d give anything to be able to take care of them. I was raised by my aunt and uncle and it probably won’t be my decision but I can’t see them being put into a home unless they need medical care.
I had to put my mother in an alzheimer’s/ nursing home when her alzheimer’s made it too dangerous for me to sleep during the day. I was a single nurse working 12 hr night shifts and got virtually no help from my 4 brothers. It was the sadest day of my life. ‘To make it worse I was a paramedic/flight RN and had experience picking patient’s up from nursing homes. Even the best ones aren’t good. Needless to say, I still kept her with me so much her insurance started not wanting to pay for the nursing home. I just wish she had an inheritance for me. I would have spent every dime keeping her home with me. Her insurance didn’t pay for experimental drugs and they weren’t cheap. I paid and they still didn’t work. I still miss her every day.
A parent can become too disabled for the their offspring to take care of and it’s a shame when all the parents worldly goods ( inheritance) end up going to a nursing home instead of the children and grand children. This happened to my wife who spent a year away from us caring for her parents till it became impossible. It would be nice if the next generation was able to benefit from what the previous generation had accumulated. Greed has nothing to do with it. We genuinely cared for her parents and did what we could.
Back to the original point; Isn’t Sylvia and husband Dan supposed to be self-supporting (although next-door)and if money’s that tight, ….um, I just lost the point, ‘cuz I’m older’n Earl and ….ah,.. where waz I going with this, ennyways? Oh, I remember…. it was about the
Thank you, Beviek, It was just an off-hand remark. I wish my mom had spent all her money. Inheritance is another headache. Llewellenbruce was just going with the comic strip.
hsawlrae about 12 years ago
If you didn’t have money to pay cash for it, you should have gotten a good running clunker.
Llewellenbruce about 12 years ago
I had to put my mother in a nursing home and aftera couple of years there went my inheritance.
Labyr1nth about 12 years ago
Wow, Llewellenbruce, so your lost inheritance is the primary memory from that event, huh?
J Short about 12 years ago
Did Earl mention he wanted the lawn mowed?
GROG Premium Member about 12 years ago
You may as well pack now, Earl.
Linguist about 12 years ago
That sounds exactly like something my daughter would say.
lightenup Premium Member about 12 years ago
Totally off topic. Definitely.
otahans about 12 years ago
Simpsonfan2, I’m with you!
PShaw0423 about 12 years ago
No doubt there are people who warehouse old relatives in a nursing home just to get them out of their hair…in an old-movie cliché about an “old folks home”, that is. Three things wrong with that scenario in the real world:.(1) Most people in a modern nursing home are there out of medical necessity — these places are nursing homes, and the residents require physical/medical assistance and care on a more-or-less continual basis. Those who don’t need that level of care belong in a senior housing or assisted living facility if they’re unable to remain in their own homes..(2) Actual nursing homes don’t want, and won’t accept, patients who don’t truly need the level of care they provide. They need the beds and the staff for those who do.,(3) Nursing homes are expensive. More families are impoverished by supporting a relative in a nursing home than are ever able to stash grandpa there just because they want to and can afford it..There are exceptions, of course. And senior living housing and assisted living facilities can be dreary and lonely (not to mention expensive) if the real problem is that no one cares about the ones who live there..But Earl doesn’t have to worry about that at this point. He’s a reasonably healthy, pretty likable old coot, and he’s on good terms with his extended family, as far as we know. And it doesn’t sould like anyone could afford to put him anywhere!
QuietStorm27 about 12 years ago
I’m only 34 and both my natural parents are gone, I’d give anything to be able to take care of them. I was raised by my aunt and uncle and it probably won’t be my decision but I can’t see them being put into a home unless they need medical care.
Menicus about 12 years ago
Maybe you’d have that inheritance if you’d taken care of your parents instead of dumping them in a nursing home…
BRI-NO-MITE!! Premium Member about 12 years ago
When we put my father in a nursing home it was a very expensive last resort.
barkingspider1 about 12 years ago
I had to put my mother in an alzheimer’s/ nursing home when her alzheimer’s made it too dangerous for me to sleep during the day. I was a single nurse working 12 hr night shifts and got virtually no help from my 4 brothers. It was the sadest day of my life. ‘To make it worse I was a paramedic/flight RN and had experience picking patient’s up from nursing homes. Even the best ones aren’t good. Needless to say, I still kept her with me so much her insurance started not wanting to pay for the nursing home. I just wish she had an inheritance for me. I would have spent every dime keeping her home with me. Her insurance didn’t pay for experimental drugs and they weren’t cheap. I paid and they still didn’t work. I still miss her every day.
ronpolimeni about 12 years ago
A parent can become too disabled for the their offspring to take care of and it’s a shame when all the parents worldly goods ( inheritance) end up going to a nursing home instead of the children and grand children. This happened to my wife who spent a year away from us caring for her parents till it became impossible. It would be nice if the next generation was able to benefit from what the previous generation had accumulated. Greed has nothing to do with it. We genuinely cared for her parents and did what we could.
unca jim about 12 years ago
Back to the original point; Isn’t Sylvia and husband Dan supposed to be self-supporting (although next-door)and if money’s that tight, ….um, I just lost the point, ‘cuz I’m older’n Earl and ….ah,.. where waz I going with this, ennyways? Oh, I remember…. it was about the
missjunebug about 12 years ago
Thank you, Beviek, It was just an off-hand remark. I wish my mom had spent all her money. Inheritance is another headache. Llewellenbruce was just going with the comic strip.