Hmmm – that’s a bit like what is going in our house. Husband does not understand that I like to do things alone some times. Since he quit his job back around 2007, after agreeing as part of the plan, that I could go on doing what I do normally during the day on my own, little by little we progressed to the point (long before the pandemic started) where we do everything together – big time alone is now – on my laptop after dinner (1:45 am) in the kitchen to be away from being with him in our office upstairs on my desktop computer. Pre pandemic I went out to a client in NYC once a month alone and went to my embroidery chapter once a month for 10 months a year alone (though he wants to join same also – but part of the agreement was he would not) – then lunch or whatever I wanted to do alone – such as taking donation items to Goodwill. When he first quit his job I would go out on Fridays I used to go out alone for lunch and to do whatever I wanted to do (mostly run errands) as I had done before. Friday afternoon alone disappeared years go.
So I know what this guy feels like. Some people think that wanting to do things without them means you don’t love them.
Paige Braddock and Jason McNamara
February 28, 2014