Jan 17, 2018
Since she first showed up, Toni has had a cowardice toward commitment. .What is amazing is that she gave Brad a chance at all, given her obsession with “bad boys” over the years. She fits this extremely common personality profile and I have little doubt she will eventually break up with Brad or drive him away:.“The Coward. This is the girl who is considered “good looking” in high school or college, who only will date “bad boys”. She is holding out for a “bad boy” with a heart of gold. Initially at least. So, she avoids dating, then gets burned by a “bad boy”. She “gets scared” and turns down every date by “nice guys”, one after another, because she is afraid of having a bad relationship.
Eventually, she’s noticed by another party animal “bad boy” and she is so interested— “she gets the ‘hots’ for the guy”, is how it was described— that she forgets her fear because of her desire to get him in the bedroom. She only briefly forgets her cowardice, because she burns herself again on him, despite knowing what he is. She’s essentially hoping that the rat will somehow turn out to be a prince, despite knowing inwardly what he is.
After that it’s boohoo, whine, cry, and back to “all men are awful, lousy,” etc. and she turns down “nice guy” after “nice guy” for dates.
And then another “bad boy”.
And then another period of cowardice. And then another “bad boy.”
And then another period of cowardice… and so on.
Most Cowards repeated this cycle for years at a time. Some still are doing the same after 30+ years. This one tended to earn men’s contempt, because it was completely self-inflicted and pathetic both."
Mar 2, 2018