A ‘Good swat on the bottom’ is not abuse.And Jean did mention that perhaps Michael would do as he was told, which is the desireable outcome..Know which buttons to push on your kids so they will respect and obey you. .Some respond to a swat, some laugh at a swat or even a spanking. Some respond to the “you have disappointed me” speech, and others would rather get a ‘beating’ than ‘the lecture’. Some respond to the time out (with or without a timer, depending) and others need to have a beloved toy removed for a time..Oh, btw, all my kids resemble my icon. And I Am the Alpha Female.