IMHO, Ellie didn’t have to be so loud about having her kids pick up their mess. She could have asked them to do so in a moderate voice and given them a little time to do what she asked. If she expects the kids to stay out of her hair, she has to assume they’ll have to play with something. Kids almost never play with one single item at a time.
I think Ellie has to re-evaluate her priorities and time her daily chores to lighten her load and allow time to spend quality time with her kids. She is always short with them and never seems to enjoy their company.