Cathy Classics by Cathy Guisewite for July 19, 2014

Its no fun doing all of this stuff without a “real” person to help you every once in a while, guy! I guess your “time out” is going to be spent unraveling yourself like a ball of yarn. But, then, after that expensive yoga relaxation session, you’re just going to have to roll it all up again… ;)

I live in CA about 20 minutes to the beach and I still never go.I can see it though. Does that count? hahaha Every time I go to the Pismo Walmart, I look over at the ocean and think, “Oh, that’s pretty.”

I went all the time in my youth. We need to go at least once a month – just because we still can!

Why do people think vacations and marriage lead to happiness?All I heard about vacations was it was an escape from a job they hate. My daughter lives vacation every day. She loves working with disadvantage students, counseling them to get into college. But she does not live her job day and night like most people. She tells me that she goes to Chinatown to take Tai Chi twice a week. She goes to dance classes. She loves the night life in New York City, dancing with her friends.I tell her not to get marry unless she loves that person with great passion to give up her lifestyle. Marriage is hard work. You have to work hard with a husband to make a marriage work. You can love somebody, but you could never make a marriage work. It is a hundred times harder with a child.She is excited about going to China in September. I told her you can’t bring a baby on that vacation.

I think Bob Dylan sums up my feelings pretty well …

“Idiot windBlowin’ every time you move your feet.You’re an idiot, baby.It’s a wonder that you still know how to breathe.”

HI, MOM. Hello, “Cathy” Clan.

My daughter has no desire about marriage like our generation. It is not a burning issue like our generation. She only wants the experience of having her own baby.The only incident to mar my son’s birth was my father. The only question he had was did the child have “Chinese eyes.” Not that the baby or mother were well, but just that. My father was a racist.My oldest sister was accepted to the University of Michigan, one of the major universities in this country. His concern was that she could find a Chinese engineer or doctor to marry. She married a tall blonde and blue eye fellow. He disowned my middle sister when she married a white student at Central Michigan University.The family dark secret came out when my father died. His mother was a love child between his sea captain grandfather and his Japanese mistress. His grandfather’s Chinese wife, barren, took my grandmother as her own. I think my father wanted to keep from diluting the family’s Chinese blood.I volunteered for the Vietnam War to get away from his insanity. I found a little Mexican woman who gave me love and a family. Like George said, how can a man live with a woman for 40 years? Love