When we adopted our older daughter as an infant, we loved her smile when she looked up at us – absolutely brilliant smile with sparkling eyes, and we fell in love. But we were told other people rejected her because her skin was dark, blotchy and she was under-nourished. At an orphanage!!! But I am so thankful for their rejections – we got her, and she gave meaning to our lives, and now is set to be the valedictorian at her HS this year.
Nice over-generalization there. I personally know at least 4 white-parent families who have adopted non-white children. Does that datum date back to WW2?
Andrew T. may feel it is an over-generalization, but it is still pretty true. Yes, there are those who are willing to adopt the hard to place children, but there are still tens of thousands of “Annies” who are not blond blue-eyed infants, who are growing up in institutions or in foster homes because they are unadoptable. Or rather than adopt a special needs child from the U.S. they adopt a Korean or other non-U.S. child. The most common reason given for this is that they have heard horror stories of parents coming back after the adoption was finalized and demanding the return of their child. If a proper Termination of Parental Rights is done, this is impossible today. When my family adopted my two sisters through the state we were then living in, the state required that characteristics of the family match that of the adopted child. we were only able to adopt my brown eyed sister into our blue eyed family because my grandfather fortunately had brown eyes. My wife is a social worker who has worked with placing children for adoption. At one time we were in the process of adopting one of those older children no one else wanted, a 15 year old boy when we began the process, who decided when he was 16 that he was almost 18 and decided he didn’t want to be adopted. A couple of years later he realized he had made a huge mistake, but we were no longer living in that state.
karanne over 8 years ago
Of course, Drew adopting her is out of the question …
rnrnetmails over 8 years ago
When we adopted our older daughter as an infant, we loved her smile when she looked up at us – absolutely brilliant smile with sparkling eyes, and we fell in love. But we were told other people rejected her because her skin was dark, blotchy and she was under-nourished. At an orphanage!!! But I am so thankful for their rejections – we got her, and she gave meaning to our lives, and now is set to be the valedictorian at her HS this year.
Just saying people get very picky when adopting…
The Jeep Guy Premium Member over 8 years ago
If only!
live.the.future over 8 years ago
Nice over-generalization there. I personally know at least 4 white-parent families who have adopted non-white children. Does that datum date back to WW2?
Bogy Premium Member over 8 years ago
Andrew T. may feel it is an over-generalization, but it is still pretty true. Yes, there are those who are willing to adopt the hard to place children, but there are still tens of thousands of “Annies” who are not blond blue-eyed infants, who are growing up in institutions or in foster homes because they are unadoptable. Or rather than adopt a special needs child from the U.S. they adopt a Korean or other non-U.S. child. The most common reason given for this is that they have heard horror stories of parents coming back after the adoption was finalized and demanding the return of their child. If a proper Termination of Parental Rights is done, this is impossible today. When my family adopted my two sisters through the state we were then living in, the state required that characteristics of the family match that of the adopted child. we were only able to adopt my brown eyed sister into our blue eyed family because my grandfather fortunately had brown eyes. My wife is a social worker who has worked with placing children for adoption. At one time we were in the process of adopting one of those older children no one else wanted, a 15 year old boy when we began the process, who decided when he was 16 that he was almost 18 and decided he didn’t want to be adopted. A couple of years later he realized he had made a huge mistake, but we were no longer living in that state.