I like how he called it a “pat on the back”. I know that there were cases of “child abuse” in my day. But this whole mentality that a spanking/paddling is child abuse is ridiculous. When kids can threaten parents with arrest, it’s completely out of hand. And, I know. My sister’s youngest child tried it. Didn’t work on my sister. But it does on so many.
Like Charles Smith said, it depends on the child. Spankings never worked for me. They worked for my sister. restriction worked for me. Regardless, parents who aren’t parenting should be parenting. Friendship comes later.