For Better or For Worse by Lynn Johnston

For Better or For Worse

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  1. Nabuquduriuzhur

    Nabuquduriuzhur said, about 2 years ago

    Isn’t it funny that when parents were snotty/snooty about “violence” their kids were usually the most violent in the neighborhoods?

  2. TEMPLO S.U.D.

    TEMPLO S.U.D. said, about 2 years ago

    Then again…

  3. kfccanada

    kfccanada said, about 2 years ago

    Just how violent can one get with a teddy bear as a weapon?

    Can the experts prove that a parent ‘snooty about violence’ actually caused their child….15 years later…to run out, buy a gun, and harm someone? It’s how this woman handles her son NOW ‘because of’ his violence that will help determine how he will behave in the future.

  4. Shirttail Slim

    Shirttail Slim said, about 2 years ago

    Kids like to express themselves.

  5. Lin Collingwood

    Lin Collingwood said, about 2 years ago

    You can find violence anywhere you look. I don’t need no toy gun.A mommas boy doll will work just fine! LOL!!!!!!

  6. bluskies

    bluskies said, about 2 years ago

    @Nabuquduriuzhur

    Not really. By trying to isolate and insulate their kids from “violence”, they also removed the means for them to “play act” their natural aggression and learn to get along with their peers, while adding to their sense of being “different” from them. We had water guns in the summer and cap pistols the rest of the year. Played “Cops and robbers” and “Cowboys and Indians” a lot, but in spite of many an “I got you! No you didn’t!” moment, and an occasional minor scuffle, NOBODY ever used their metal capgun to brain their opponent. That was against “kid rules” and not acceptable. Of course, that was also a time when “I’m disappointed in you” from Mom or Dad meant something.

  7. psychlady

    psychlady said, about 2 years ago

    Lizzie needs to learn something here, too.

  8. James

    James said, about 2 years ago

    Yeah, because only kids who played with toy soldiers as kids are ever violent, right?

  9. Judson Fredrickson

    Judson Fredrickson said, about 2 years ago

    Humans are a violent species. We have to be to survive. But we have the ability (not necessarily the motivation or maturity) to modify our behavior by conscienous thought/decision. Parental involvment, cause and effect behavior modification (i.e. punishment that hurts) is the only thing that really sinks into a kids understanding. The world is a violent place, and if you don’t educate a child about what violence is and when it is appropriate (and sometimes it is) they have to learn the hard way, by experience. To say violence is NEVER right is moronic – survival requires it. ALL of your food was killed by someone (plants included). If we are not willing to be violent enough to survive — we won’t. Wishing humans were non-violent is like wishing for the weather in Camelot – pointless and foolish. Humans are ALL potentially violent – ever observed a protective mother when her child is threatened? While it is true that some will simply scream and faint, most will wade into the fray and at least do some damage in defence of their child. I don’t promote violence; I simply recognize there are times and places when it is required and must be ready and skilled to meet it. Otherwise we will be overrun by over-zealous hyper-aggressive morons who don’t have any doubts about the question.

    Having said all that, one kid whacking another with a teddy bear is hardly something to get upset about. It’s an opportunity actually teach the kid about violence. What the boy did was wrong, but not cataclysmically wrong. Now is the time to explain the issue and, if necessary, reinforce the lesson with a liitle violence of your own. A 4 or 5 year old is not an adult – they don’t understand philosophy. They do understand getting their backsides warmed.

  10. jim12345

    jim12345 said, about 2 years ago

    Who need toy guns too be violence ???

  11. Slywlf

    Slywlf said, about 2 years ago

    Lynn’s Notes:
    This is another personally-experienced scenario which reached the papers. Even though we admonished the combatants, we laughed all the way to the food court!

  12. Slywlf

    Slywlf said, about 2 years ago

    In other words ‘kids will be kids’ and by scolding them but not making a huge deal out of it neither kids was scarred for life nor probably even remembered the incident within a few weeks. Parenting has as much to do with letting a child grow and express him or herself – while teaching them which expressions are appropriate – as about what toys they can use.

  13. Night-Gaunt49

    Night-Gaunt49 said, about 2 years ago

    Lynn’s Notes:
    This is another personally-experienced scenario which reached the papers. Even though we admonished the combatants, we laughed all the way to the food court!

  14. don57

    don57 said, about 2 years ago

    I had every toy gun I could get my hands on as a kid (and growing up in the 60’s that’s quite a list) but I have never owned the real thing and have only fired a gun (at targets) a handful of times. Toys don’t predispose kids to violence, violent adult role models do.

  15. mrsdonaldson

    mrsdonaldson said, about 2 years ago

    I taught my Sunday School class how to make Christmas Trees out of newspapers once. The boys immediately took to sword fighting with them.

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