Big Nate by Lincoln Peirce

Big Nate

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  1. Wiseguy1130

    Wiseguy1130 said, almost 2 years ago

    vwdualnomand Regarding your comment yesterday: Wondering what you think is wrong with telling a child that he or she is special, a winner, to respect their elders, follow their dreams, and also give them advice about bullies and strangers, etc. Since you called these types of comments “lies WE tell kids”, you must be an adult. What advice do YOU give?

  2. Strod

    Strod said, almost 2 years ago


    Well, I’m not @vwdualnomand but I can answer a few of those. What is wrong with telling a child that he or she is “special” or “a winner”: because it’s not true. We (well, you) tell that to all kids, and like Dashiell Parr said, that’s another way of saying no one is. When every single kid in every single team in the championship gets a trophy, the trophies lose all their value.
    Respect their elders: I’m with you on that one. I have no idea what @vwdualnomand was thinking.
    Follow your dreams: Well, that depends on your dreams. Some dreams are really stupid. I’m really glad I followed some of mine and even more glad I didn’t follow others.
    Advice about bullies: Depends on the advice, because many times it just shows the child that you really have no idea what they feel about what they are going through.
    Stranger danger: one of the most damaging policies instituted in the 70’s because it made the kids focus on strangers as the main and almost-only threat, when it turns out that most psychological and sexual abuse is actually perpetrated by someone the child knows and trusts. (Don’t trust me on that one, look it up).
    What kind of advice should be given? Realistic advice that doesn’t build a fake world around the child. Part of why teenagers are considered to be “difficult” to deal with is because that is the age when they realize that most of what you told them were well-intentioned lies, so they stop trusting you.

  3. Suzanne

    Suzanne GoComics PRO Member said, almost 2 years ago

    Now your comment regarding teenagers is very interesting. I consider the teen years of my children rather non-stressful other than their smoking of marijuana. I tried to be honest with them and I guess it paid off because I think they grew into awesome people. We had the Easter Bunny and Santa Claus but I drew the line at the tooth fairy because I wasn’t paying (money we didn’t have) for a naturally occurring event. The world did not stop turning when they found out the truth and I believed in the spirit of Santa and Bunny and we went to church and all was good. I imparted to them that one of the worst things they could do was lie. Many a time I’ve said, “Thank you for telling me the truth. I don’t like it, but I appreciate knowing the truth.” And they were never punished for it and we worked it from there.

  4. alcluin

    alcluin said, almost 2 years ago


    Telling they are special or a winner when they are not sets them up to for a huge disappointment when they find out they are not. Not only that but leads them to believe they do not have to put effort into the things they need improvement on. To quote a movie line from Christan Slater I can smell lie like a fart in a car .
    Most kids know when adults are condescending toward them and rightfully despise it and them .
    Reenforcing positives they accomplish is great but shoeing them thing that need to improve are just as important for their growth and ego.
    And thats where the lies damage them the ego is very easy to damage and extremely hard to heal especially when they can not trust you to be truthful.

  5. alcluin

    alcluin said, almost 2 years ago


    opps on the typo’s another item is all their life it is repeatedly drummed into them tell the truth never lie about anything and they are punished when caught in a lie.
    Yet adults lie to them constantly with no negative result . We want them to act right and behave yet we cant do it ourselves. And what is the right way to much has been put on what society thinks first we have to realize that not just the Jewda-christian version of things work for everyone if they did there would only be one united Christian church instead of thousands of splinter groups . And they would still practice the laws and rules of the old church not just the ones they choose to champion.

  6. SuperDavid

    SuperDavid said, almost 2 years ago

    His gram is just like nate’s Dad

  7. david_42

    david_42 said, almost 2 years ago

    Nothing more demeaning than "Participation Awards’. If you tell kids they are all winners, regardless of the game, you ensure they never try to find something they really are good at.

  8. Avid Reader

    Avid Reader said, almost 2 years ago

    This comments section turned from a bunch of children with inane comments like “first” to a deep psychological discussion about how to raise said children. Sheesh.

  9. James_s_henry

    James_s_henry GoComics PRO Member said, almost 2 years ago

    I, for one, liked it.

  10. Comic Minister

    Comic Minister said, almost 2 years ago

    Agreed Teddy.

  11. orbenjawell

    orbenjawell said, almost 2 years ago

    She probably gives out “treats” on Halloween night that Marty would approve of…….Snark! SNARK!!

  12. Saucy1121

    Saucy1121 GoComics PRO Member said, almost 2 years ago

    GORP is better (good old raisins and peanuts).

  13. Suzanne

    Suzanne GoComics PRO Member said, almost 2 years ago

    Gosh, sometimes the comment section takes on a life of its own.
    And, yes, I did praise my children for work well done when it was so. One of my daughter’s first sewing projects was a hoody. I pointed out all she did well and the one area that wasn’t perfect I said it would get better with practice. She is now a fashion designer.

  14. Wiseguy1130

    Wiseguy1130 said, almost 2 years ago

    Never said lie to your children, be personally dishonest in any situation, make them think they are superior to others, that I agree with participation trophies, or would lead anyone to believe they are just going to be handed something without earning it. Or to tell “Little Johnny” he is good at something if he isn’t.Basically was saying you better be encouraging and edifying in how you talk to your kids and you better TALK TO YOUR KIDS! And make sure they know he/she is special to you.Why some teens are difficult to deal with is a really deep subject, but I personally believe it has a whole lot to do with the breakdown of the family and values in general. Without getting deeply into Judeo-Christian values—that’s what much of what the “founding fathers” based the government on.

  15. Skullmaster

    Skullmaster said, almost 2 years ago


    That’s not the interpretation someone gets when they read your first comment, because what you wrote and what you mean are, apparently, opposite in meaning to each other. When a child accomplishes something worth recognizing, then by all means congratulate them on it. But don’t keep bringing it up, because then the impression they get is that they don’t need to do anything else in the near future.

    When a child begins to get over-encouraged, they begin to think that they can try anything they want and be good at it or even if they’re not good at it, there won’t be any consequences. This is (clearly) not the case. And every child is special to their parents, simply because it’s THEIR child. No need to dwell on that because every kid gets that kind of praise from their parents. The better thing to do is to let them know what their strengths are, but focus on improving weaknesses.

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