re: twypsi and sottwell
It came down to three things in GenX: 1. Most women of GenX had a been-there, done that attitude about sex before marriage due to chasing the 20% or so of men they all found attractive. Most guys by comparison were virgins when they married because of that herd mentality of the women, when the women finally decided to marry after 10, 15 years of one night stands. Because of that difference in attitude, for men sex was something special in itself, but it wasn’t special to the women, who were used to doing it as a thrill on a date with their latest. .2.Because of that cavalier attitude toward sex, when they got married, GenX women normally allowed everything else to become more important. From hobbies to other interests. Many men just gave up after enough rejections for things like shopping or whatever else had priority. .3. The typical woman in junior high/high school in the 1980s and 1990s was trained in feminism and as such, the work of all things romantic and in marriage was assumed to be the responsibility of men, just as all other responsibility was placed on men. It takes two to make a marriage work and when one party puts nothing into it, it comes apart eventually. The typical excuse for divorce I’ve heard from women has been things like “I was bored”, “we didn’t party enough” etc..These were things I have commonly observed.