I got put out like the cat while the guy who buggered out 23 years earlier and only recently showed up got all of the privileges. We also paid for the wedding.
Hasty generalization there, a common logical fallacy. I’m neither a leader nor a follower and tend not to associate with either, but keep the company of other critical thinkers. The two tenets that davidw put forward above are good ones to live by.
Freebird!