I also know of another couple where the woman wanted to keep her last name but her fiance said that was a “deal breaker” for him, and it was “no big deal” for her to change her name. So she asked him to change his name to hers, and he about fainted. “What?” she replied, “I thought it was no big deal?” She wound up keeping her name.
Not only do I know MANY couple where the woman kept her name, but I also know several couples where they came up with a new last name together. For example, “Houston” and “Bauer” was changed to “Bauston”. Another couple, “Thomas” and “Cramer” BOTH went by “Thomas-Cramer” after they got married. If I were to get married, I would keep my name or come up with a combination like above. After all, he’s marrying me, not adopting me.
If and when I get married, I’ll be keeping my own name, or we will come up with a name that we BOTH will change to. He’s marrying me, not adopting me.