even when i was that young, smoking was nasty and we would always walk past the smokers coughing and choking. Smoking was not allowed in the house by guests, and you were crazy if you wanted to smoke.
when i was younger and had parties with my parents, the fanciest drinks we had were sparkling juices. No alcohol at their parties! the older kids, who actually stayed up til 12 (not our 9oclock pretend one for the kids) always helped clean up after guests (mostly families with kids) left.
val’s husband, tom, died of cancer