Defunctdoormat, I submit to you that many of the kids who are out of control and causing mayhem all over the place are the ones who DO get hit at home. And not only hit, but humiliated, insulted and kicked around emotionally all the time. Just look at our prisons. They’re FILLED with people who had childhoods like that.
Yes, there is the opposite—-kids whose parents are far too permissive and don’t teach them boundaries. But I bleieve that far more often, they grow up to become far less dangerous and destructive individuals than those who carry around the scars left by the belt on both the skin and mind.
No, not every kid who is hit will suffer damage. Just as not every kid who ISN’T hit will turn out fine. But the idea that corporal punishment is the cure-all, rock-solid foundation of good parenting is the reason we have so many damaged, confused people out there.