The only time I am right is when I agree with my wife or she when lets me believe that I am right even when she knows I am wrong – she told me this and more. I mostly just keep quiet or try to change the subject.
The no-win conundrum of married life. If he goes, she’ll hate him for going. If he stays, she’ll hate him for making her feel guilty for him not going. If he gives up golf entirely to spend time with her, she’ll hate him for just sitting in front of the TV all the time and for what he wants to watch. Too cynical….?
Binary thinking is that there are only two possibilities: to be or not to be, zero / one, on / off and most importantly right / wrong. In between is no-man’s land.
We will never resolve our differences if we each stay entrenched in our positions. However to go “over the top” means to take a lot of fire.
In my case, all he wanted to do was play golf, that was it. No conversation, no kindness, no doing anything together just play golf golf golf. The relationship was dead. I took the highway.
During 50+ years of marriage, I have heard my spouse say, “I was wrong, you were right,” three times [the rest of the time our disagreements end in silent acquiescence]. About half of our disagreements are based on one partner wanting to do something for self as opposed to something that needs to be done for the family. The rest of our disagreements seem to occur when he is surprised that I have knowledge and opinions about something external to my expected realm of knowledge [e.g., home, family, my profession] that are contrary to his own. Female friends and relatives have observed similar behaviors. Possibly it is a genetic condition based on a deficiency in the Y chromosome.
Hmm… she’s curled up on a comfy couch with books, wine, coffee, snacks and a big-screen TV. Doesn’t exactly look like she wants him to join her, so maybe going out to waste an afternoon being frustrated and not paid for it (the difference between golf and work) is exactly what she wants.
Oh let him go play golf. She’s nice and cozy, curled up on the sofa. She’s got her book and a glass of wine. I love time to myself when the hubby goes to play pool with his buddies
Bilan about 1 month ago
I’m on the highway to hole 1
GreasyOldTam about 1 month ago
She gave him a choice, and he’s taking it. Which won’t be an acceptable answer, as he will find out when he gets back.
crosscompiler Premium Member about 1 month ago
Go! Not even remotely a golf fan, but it beats being in a room with a television.
Superfrog about 1 month ago
I guess he’s back from the fairway.
fuzzbucket Premium Member about 1 month ago
I’d take the highway, but take the house payment with me.
keenanthelibrarian about 1 month ago
‘My Way’ seems pretty relaxed, to me. Wouldn’t mind trying it ..
jaydogg187 about 1 month ago
He thought he was special. She could see it in his eyes. She could see it when he laughed at her, looked down on her, and walked around on her.
PraiseofFolly about 1 month ago
Bing Crosby’s young wife was not duly impressed that one of his big hit songs was “Going My Way.”
Dobby53 Premium Member about 1 month ago
Looks like the usual quorum of cats have left the room(s).
einarbt about 1 month ago
The only time I am right is when I agree with my wife or she when lets me believe that I am right even when she knows I am wrong – she told me this and more. I mostly just keep quiet or try to change the subject.
gorbash64 about 1 month ago
Instead of Highway it should say Fairway.
bbenoit about 1 month ago
The no-win conundrum of married life. If he goes, she’ll hate him for going. If he stays, she’ll hate him for making her feel guilty for him not going. If he gives up golf entirely to spend time with her, she’ll hate him for just sitting in front of the TV all the time and for what he wants to watch. Too cynical….?
dflak about 1 month ago
Binary thinking is that there are only two possibilities: to be or not to be, zero / one, on / off and most importantly right / wrong. In between is no-man’s land.
We will never resolve our differences if we each stay entrenched in our positions. However to go “over the top” means to take a lot of fire.
kjnrun about 1 month ago
Golf is always the correct answer.
morningglory73 Premium Member about 1 month ago
In my case, all he wanted to do was play golf, that was it. No conversation, no kindness, no doing anything together just play golf golf golf. The relationship was dead. I took the highway.
Doug K about 1 month ago
This seems kind of nice to have clear choices like this.
Ultimatums should be used sparingly – they may result in have unintended negative consequences.
sandpiper about 1 month ago
They call it ‘stalemate’ because when it’s been around a while it begins to smell.
Stormy Panda about 1 month ago
“I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference."
Written by some guy named Nonamuss.
-Saint- about 1 month ago
At least he has an option, the signs could have read: “One Way: My Way”.
GreenT267 about 1 month ago
During 50+ years of marriage, I have heard my spouse say, “I was wrong, you were right,” three times [the rest of the time our disagreements end in silent acquiescence]. About half of our disagreements are based on one partner wanting to do something for self as opposed to something that needs to be done for the family. The rest of our disagreements seem to occur when he is surprised that I have knowledge and opinions about something external to my expected realm of knowledge [e.g., home, family, my profession] that are contrary to his own. Female friends and relatives have observed similar behaviors. Possibly it is a genetic condition based on a deficiency in the Y chromosome.
dakota_linda about 1 month ago
Interesting how there are no pictures in any of the picture frames. A metaphor for the marriage, perhaps?
zwilnik64 about 1 month ago
It is unclear what part of “My way” he would be part of. Possibly the most efficient sign would just read “Get lost”.
HOTLOTUS1 about 1 month ago
she’s drinking wine and coffee.
puddleglum1066 about 1 month ago
Hmm… she’s curled up on a comfy couch with books, wine, coffee, snacks and a big-screen TV. Doesn’t exactly look like she wants him to join her, so maybe going out to waste an afternoon being frustrated and not paid for it (the difference between golf and work) is exactly what she wants.
batesmom7 about 1 month ago
Her way blatantly excludes him when she claims the only two seats in the room!
kathleenhicks62 about 1 month ago
I love this!
cfkelley about 1 month ago
Sounds like my wife.
rugeirn about 1 month ago
Interesting. The TV isn’t plugged in anywhere. Maybe that’s what he gets out of the divorce?
Stormy Panda about 1 month ago
A man goes to a doctor… "I’m having severe anxiety attacks, doc, can you help me?’’
Doc; “Well, whenever I get upset, I’ll spend some time in the hot tub with my wife. It always make me feel better.”
Man; “Sounds good, I’ll try that.”
Later, the man returns. Doc; “You feeling better now?”
Man; “Yeah doc, a lot better. Say, you’ve got one beautiful wife and a great hot tub.”
locake about 1 month ago
The Highway is looking pretty good.
c141starlifter about 1 month ago
When I entered retirement, my wife was glad to get me out of the house four to five hours as often as possible.
Stan McSerr about 1 month ago
I went to a roadhouse and was told this. He also said that pain don’t hurt. Such wisdom.
Mike Baldwin creator about 1 month ago
Takes a certain amount of social intelligence to be able to read the room.
SusieB about 1 month ago
Oh let him go play golf. She’s nice and cozy, curled up on the sofa. She’s got her book and a glass of wine. I love time to myself when the hubby goes to play pool with his buddies
joannesshadow about 1 month ago
What would Frank Sinatra do?
lnrokr55 about 1 month ago
One more refugee lost in their personal echo chamber, or just life in the slaw lane ;-)
Buoy about 1 month ago
Life is a highway and he wants to ride it all night long.
cabalonrye about 1 month ago
When I was a kid they were called golf widows. I wonder if it is still true.
andrew.scharnhorst about 1 month ago
“When you come to a fork in the road, take it.” — Lawrence “Yogi” Berra
Bill The Nuke about 1 month ago
That was my father-in-laws motto.
eddi-TBH about 1 month ago
No argument there.
Timothe Murray Premium Member about 1 month ago
Why are all the wall hangings white?