Yup it was me to back in the day.
Is it worse to always be in the out crowd, or be in the In crowd and be kicked out?
I don’t see why Alix can’t host her own activities and invite her own friends. She would be much happier that way.
Rejection always hurts, but it teaches you to be independent, and that is a positive outcome. Too many these days want to be “a part” of something. But a part is something that can be replaced. A true individual cannot.
Alix the same with adults. The place I used to work at, an invitation was sent out for a party, I did not receive invitation left out, the party went on life went on.
It hurts a bit now Alix, but you are far better off by not “belonging” to a clique. You have a brain and the initiative to think for yourself. That is not allowed in cliques. Be proud to be a thinker instead of a follower.
I was happy to be ignored so no invitations was a sign I was correct in my observations. I am not gregarious one of the outliers from normal group behavior. Evolution does that.
Alix, you will survive. I survived, never had a date, never went to prom, never one of the cool kids. You will find that you will succeed and surpass all those “mean girls.”
August 16, 2013
October 23, 2016