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I can’t agree with your timeline. She called Luann in tears saying that Ben is moving home. Not that he moved home already. There’s people who know English grammar better than I do, but her statement was using some form of a future tense (present continuous? present progressive?)
So, in reading “He’s moving home”, the action was not completed, and most likely not even started. It’s like saying, “Hey buddy, what’cha doin’?” “I’m packing” (action happening right now). “Oh? Where ya going?” “I’m moving to Idaho” (future action but the actual move process has not started and is not in-progress at that exact second)."
She had agreed to give up her room, at a time when she didn’t need it. Then she lost her job and dorm and the eviction was immediate (!!!). Plenty of plot holes there… but the way I see it, Ben and kids were not living at the Halper house when she got her walking papers. Still unknown why she didn’t call her folks about moving back home, or work something out as far as room sharing, a couch or a temporary stay there until she finds a job to pay for her dorm (like Tiff did).
Running to Luann in tears, and becoming yet another dependent on someone else is not “adulting” and not choice, at least not a good one.
Yeah. I get it, and it’s quite forgivable to use a substitute word to avoid complaints to the Features Editor.
It’s the other bits of bizarre and unnatural dialogue in the strip that irk me. A character loses job, loses dorm, feels she can’t go home for whatever reason, has NO MONEY and calls best friend. And this character’s first words are, “It’s over!” (???)
Princess Leia got good mileage out of, “Help me, Obi Wan Kenobi, you’re my only hope!” Straight to the point, and intriguing, and everybody wanted to know more!
People make assumptions all the time, weighting “stranger danger” vs. trying to be social/civil. If you’re a smaller woman walking alone, it’s understandable to cross the street to avoid walking by a homeless camp. There is a specific assumption being made, and a decision that one’s safety is more important than “don’t judge”.
In Bernice’s case, she’s physically scampering off and hiding from some guy, who might, or might not be Ben (he’s not). Thar’s more than just assuming. Something is really wrong with her…
I think psychology is a valid field, and has some social use and benefits. But, I think Bernice chose the wrong field! She got inspired (by Mrs. Phelps, I think) and wants to be a counselor, but that job is completely wrong for her personality type. She’s better as a lab rat…errr.. researcher, or court psychologist who talks about “various studies show…” instead of one-on-one counseling. She’d just be BAD at it, but great as an data analyst and number cruncher.
But trading dependency on one family (hers) to another (the DeGroots) is not “adulting” either. Based on the in-strip events, other people are now “sharing” (and giving up a decent chunk of income) for her sake.
It comes off as selfish if it was her desire to not live in the same house as Ben and kids, and then goes running off to someone else so they can support her instead. But nothing yet explains why she was crying and in a panic initially… something that doesn’t happen if she made a cool, clinical decision that she didn’t WANT to move back home at all.
Anything that causes you to go from “walk outside” to “darting behind any available cover with a pained grimace” is serious. She needs to stop bottling up whatever’s eating her, and tell the full story to someone. I’m thinking… Nancy DeGroot for starters?
Definitely agree with you there. Bernice’s first night of anxiety and insecurity was all in her head. She let herself make up dire scenarios about “offending” the DeGroots. Yeah, she needed to get over her own imaginary demons then.
But now? Something is deeper, and more seriously wrong here!
She didn’t even know he existed until she was 16. Once they met, they seemed to get along well, and enyojed spending time together, then he dropped out of the strip.
Had Ben done anything abusive towards her, at any time, that would appear in her thoughts and on her face (which we can see). Bern was never shy about expressing dislike, disdain or contempt for anyone. If she despised Ben for any abusive behavior in the past, she would have shown it by now.
In her current state, seeing ANY male person is enough to make her dart behind any convenient cover. Serious problems there… it doesn’t seem fair to say she’s “assuming”… there is actual thought behind assumptions, right or wrong. What she’s doing is the more primal “fight or flee” instinct (and she’s fleeing). With a whole lotta misery and fear.
I’m inclined to be sympathetic, unless there’s in-strip reasons to not be.
I’m not seeing anything wrong with just using the expression “OMG!” which real Gen Z’s use.
As for the fussy ol’ fundies who might get offended if the phrase was spelled out entirely, at least using “OMG!” isn’t explicitly spelling out the Lord’s name and they may interpret it as they wish.