@ Allan V: Elly does have a job - as a homemaker, which, as others have said, with its multiple functions, is very valuable (monetarily and otherwise). That is why John admitted it was wrong of him to say it was his money. They have a partnership, and the money is theirs.
I have been in an equal partnership marriage for 30+ years. I would not even have dated someone who believed in gender roles, let alone married one. My mother used to serve my father food as he wanted it, getting up throughout the meals to do so. He never reciprocated. I said as a child “I will never do that.” My husband and I have supported each other financially and emotionally, with no struggle over who brought in more money.
Thank you Carol. :)