Now for an opposing viewpoint from @Popehat (BrandenburgTestHat)…
/13 When I came home from college the first time I’m sure I was completely insufferable — I mean, MORE SO — convinced I had discovered enlightenment and that my parents were out of it. One issue on which I felt elevated was gay rights, something not very mainstream in 1987.
/14 My parents were blessedly patient with me. In the course of pronouncing opinions on these matters, I learned something that surprised me.
My father supported same sex marriage.
/15 Well, not exactly. I don’t know if he supported actual marriage — not that it was even on the horizon them. What I mean is that, as a trust and estate lawyer, he employed his knowledge and skills to approximate it for clients as closely as possible.
/16 That is, for decades, dad had been quietly drafting end of life plans for same-sex couples that protected their wishes and rights to the maximum amount the law permitted through trusts, powers of attorney, and similar documents.
/17 Of COURSE there were same-sex couples then who were, in all relevant ways, married. In most places they were “Uncle John and his friend” or “Aunt Jill and her roommate,” but they lived as couples and were widely seen that way by loved ones.
/18 Dad did it without fanfare and not, I think, out of political or social sensibilities, but because it’s a lawyer’s duty to serve the clients and this was what the clients needed for their wishes to be respected.
/19 By all accounts he was very effective at this and people who obtained these plans avoided many of the tragedies and injustices that have plagued same-sex couples at times of death and injury. I’m proud of him. I also learned an important sensibility from it ….
March 20, 2014
September 30, 2017