Hmmm – that’s a bit like what is going in our house. Husband does not understand that I like to do things alone some times. Since he quit his job back around 2007, after agreeing as part of the plan, that I could go on doing what I do normally during the day on my own, little by little we progressed to the point (long before the pandemic started) where we do everything together – big time alone is now – on my laptop after dinner (1:45 am) in the kitchen to be away from being with him in our office upstairs on my desktop computer. Pre pandemic I went out to a client in NYC once a month alone and went to my embroidery chapter once a month for 10 months a year alone (though he wants to join same also – but part of the agreement was he would not) – then lunch or whatever I wanted to do alone – such as taking donation items to Goodwill. When he first quit his job I would go out on Fridays I used to go out alone for lunch and to do whatever I wanted to do (mostly run errands) as I had done before. Friday afternoon alone disappeared years go.
So I know what this guy feels like. Some people think that wanting to do things without them means you don’t love them.
Wife and I spent 10+ years on a semi, traveling the country and Canada. 24/7/365. No escaping the past there.. Can’t go out with the boys, or gals and blow off steam. All past baggage has to be handled in a 10×10 space. However, we are both “self entertainers” where we don’t need to talk and do with each other. Now that she has cancer, I still go out on Tuesday mornings for a couple hours.. That may end as the end comes.. But. We don’t mind being cooped up with each other hours on end.
I’ll have to admire Paige for creating a ‘Hot Button’ issue over mis-matched expectations. And it has resonated with commenters that I didn’t expect! It has certainly worked for ‘Luann’ as she sometimes has hundreds of commenters! I sometimes wonder WHY do we find other peoples lives so interesting…and why do we feel a need to comment on it?
Vilyehm almost 3 years ago
And by that reasoning, I can’t leave a comment.
mafastore almost 3 years ago
Hmmm – that’s a bit like what is going in our house. Husband does not understand that I like to do things alone some times. Since he quit his job back around 2007, after agreeing as part of the plan, that I could go on doing what I do normally during the day on my own, little by little we progressed to the point (long before the pandemic started) where we do everything together – big time alone is now – on my laptop after dinner (1:45 am) in the kitchen to be away from being with him in our office upstairs on my desktop computer. Pre pandemic I went out to a client in NYC once a month alone and went to my embroidery chapter once a month for 10 months a year alone (though he wants to join same also – but part of the agreement was he would not) – then lunch or whatever I wanted to do alone – such as taking donation items to Goodwill. When he first quit his job I would go out on Fridays I used to go out alone for lunch and to do whatever I wanted to do (mostly run errands) as I had done before. Friday afternoon alone disappeared years go.
So I know what this guy feels like. Some people think that wanting to do things without them means you don’t love them.
k0rcj almost 3 years ago
Wife and I spent 10+ years on a semi, traveling the country and Canada. 24/7/365. No escaping the past there.. Can’t go out with the boys, or gals and blow off steam. All past baggage has to be handled in a 10×10 space. However, we are both “self entertainers” where we don’t need to talk and do with each other. Now that she has cancer, I still go out on Tuesday mornings for a couple hours.. That may end as the end comes.. But. We don’t mind being cooped up with each other hours on end.
Willywise52 Premium Member almost 3 years ago
It’s not can’t tell him,it’s won’t.
MuddyUSA Premium Member almost 3 years ago
Is there a chance for make up sex. That always worked for me….and wow!
gigagrouch almost 3 years ago
Bail out, Ethan. She’s a boat anchor.
Plods with ...™ almost 3 years ago
…and there it is.
bakana almost 3 years ago
He fell into her Trap.
Now, he will forever be Wrong.
whahoppened almost 3 years ago
I’ll have to admire Paige for creating a ‘Hot Button’ issue over mis-matched expectations. And it has resonated with commenters that I didn’t expect! It has certainly worked for ‘Luann’ as she sometimes has hundreds of commenters! I sometimes wonder WHY do we find other peoples lives so interesting…and why do we feel a need to comment on it?
bhambaker almost 3 years ago
Frankly, he’s making more sense, though she does have her points… :-)