In Japanese, “love” – 恋 (koi) – used to be written with the characters for “lonely sadness”, or 孤悲. However, the meaning was actually translated as “longing for someone in solitude”.
“The Garden of Words” – both film and graphic novel – depicts this perfectly. (In some sense, so does “A Silent Voice”)
Companionship is a persistent essentiality, it seems…
…but even people who prefer to be alone feel such needs. (I’m not sure how voluntarily they feel or act on such needs, however.)
As a loner myself, I feel the ache persistently, but I also know that socializing is difficult – confusing, traumatic, even – for a person with my level of knowledge, who suffers with hesitation over the casual everyday contact that everyone else goes through so effortlessly.
This is one of the reasons motorcyclists ride, often using their mounts as inanimate pets.
This is my husband and me. We’re both loners who enjoy each other’s company, but also give one another lots of space when one or the other needs it. It has worked very well for us.
I don’t know who originally had the idea that in a great relationship you be together doing nothing and be content – but it has been true for me. Sometimes I just need the down time. Real down time to let my brain, body and soul rest. Having a wife who understands that and will tuck in with me with a good book or something is as lucky as I think I will ever get.
oldpine52 over 2 years ago
Daisy is definitely a keeper.
RonnieAThompson Premium Member over 2 years ago
That is sweet.
blunebottle over 2 years ago
Daisy is the best!
Michael Thorton over 2 years ago
In Japanese, “love” – 恋 (koi) – used to be written with the characters for “lonely sadness”, or 孤悲. However, the meaning was actually translated as “longing for someone in solitude”.
“The Garden of Words” – both film and graphic novel – depicts this perfectly. (In some sense, so does “A Silent Voice”)
Companionship is a persistent essentiality, it seems…
…but even people who prefer to be alone feel such needs. (I’m not sure how voluntarily they feel or act on such needs, however.)
As a loner myself, I feel the ache persistently, but I also know that socializing is difficult – confusing, traumatic, even – for a person with my level of knowledge, who suffers with hesitation over the casual everyday contact that everyone else goes through so effortlessly.
This is one of the reasons motorcyclists ride, often using their mounts as inanimate pets.
Doug K over 2 years ago
I’m a loner together with you and you’re a loner together with me. Since I’m a loner and you’re a loner, together we should be even more a loner.
Looneytunes65 over 2 years ago
I’m a loner. Does that mean he’s a tool?
Lola85 Premium Member over 2 years ago
This is my husband and me. We’re both loners who enjoy each other’s company, but also give one another lots of space when one or the other needs it. It has worked very well for us.
Thinkingblade over 2 years ago
I don’t know who originally had the idea that in a great relationship you be together doing nothing and be content – but it has been true for me. Sometimes I just need the down time. Real down time to let my brain, body and soul rest. Having a wife who understands that and will tuck in with me with a good book or something is as lucky as I think I will ever get.
rice69922 over 2 years ago
I love this one!!