I think all parents of a new baby get caught up in the ‘new baby syndrom’…which tends to exclude or ‘slight’ those youngsters already in the home (not done deliberately, though). It takes conscious effort to ensure all siblings feel included…and this little guy needs to be hugged about now.
Aww… it’s not that they like him best. It’s just that babies are very needy and grown-ups have to do everything for them. You’re a big boy, and you can do things a baby can’t, but your parents love you just the same.
@kfccanada so true, I was a lucky kid. My step dad, when my kid sister was born started a special time set aside for me, I was 12. We ended up calling them daddy-daughter dates. Every Sat afternoon we would go run a few errands, grab lunch, and then go bowling or something. If dad was working on a sat, he’d take a 2 hr lunch so we could still go do something. Found out years later that my sister was envious of it.
Even though you prepare your first child for months before a new baby comes by including them as much as possible and telling them that their status as “the oldest” makes them more important than ever, you still can’t avoid the pain of jealousy. The absolute dependency of baby unavoidably pushes the older child aside. This is when partnership in parenting matters so much. The more hands and hugs and “I love you”s, the better! ..Too right you are Lynn! In my house, I was the ‘middle’ child, and being only 8, I was ‘too young’ to help my brother, and ‘too old’ to have my mother give a f..k about me any more (so she said.) Oh well, I’m 31 and haven’t seen her in 11 years.
Oh, child. Momma and Daddy will always love you. No matter what. Just like the baby, you have a special place in their hearts and that will never change.
Christopher’s lament about his parents loving his brother more, reminded me of the Smothers Brothers sketch when Tommy would say to Dick: “Mom loved you best!” Siblling rivalry is normal. My son threw an apple at his new baby brother once, Then he’d sit and tell the baby how much he loved him. My daughter was wild about her two little brothers. It all depends.
TURTLE over 12 years ago
So say the young.
kfccanada over 12 years ago
I think all parents of a new baby get caught up in the ‘new baby syndrom’…which tends to exclude or ‘slight’ those youngsters already in the home (not done deliberately, though). It takes conscious effort to ensure all siblings feel included…and this little guy needs to be hugged about now.
Elaine Rosco Premium Member over 12 years ago
Aawww mommy still loves you Christopher!
psychlady over 12 years ago
To go back to a time when that was the biggest problem…
lightenup Premium Member over 12 years ago
Aww… it’s not that they like him best. It’s just that babies are very needy and grown-ups have to do everything for them. You’re a big boy, and you can do things a baby can’t, but your parents love you just the same.
monkeyhead over 12 years ago
@kfccanada so true, I was a lucky kid. My step dad, when my kid sister was born started a special time set aside for me, I was 12. We ended up calling them daddy-daughter dates. Every Sat afternoon we would go run a few errands, grab lunch, and then go bowling or something. If dad was working on a sat, he’d take a 2 hr lunch so we could still go do something. Found out years later that my sister was envious of it.
Allan CB Premium Member over 12 years ago
Even though you prepare your first child for months before a new baby comes by including them as much as possible and telling them that their status as “the oldest” makes them more important than ever, you still can’t avoid the pain of jealousy. The absolute dependency of baby unavoidably pushes the older child aside. This is when partnership in parenting matters so much. The more hands and hugs and “I love you”s, the better! ..Too right you are Lynn! In my house, I was the ‘middle’ child, and being only 8, I was ‘too young’ to help my brother, and ‘too old’ to have my mother give a f..k about me any more (so she said.) Oh well, I’m 31 and haven’t seen her in 11 years.
redarmrest over 12 years ago
Oh, child. Momma and Daddy will always love you. No matter what. Just like the baby, you have a special place in their hearts and that will never change.
astar15 over 12 years ago
Save it for later, Chris…
coffeeturtle over 12 years ago
Surprised she can say “Christopher”. ;-)
shilohunited over 12 years ago
i’ll give u a hug, Chris
Gretchen's Mom over 12 years ago
Lizzie can say “Christopher” but she can’t say “teeth”? That seems a little strange to me!
AmariT over 12 years ago
@GretchensMom: She can’t pronounce th, but she can pronounce t and f/ph. It’s not about the length; it’s about the letters.
iced tea over 12 years ago
Christopher’s lament about his parents loving his brother more, reminded me of the Smothers Brothers sketch when Tommy would say to Dick: “Mom loved you best!” Siblling rivalry is normal. My son threw an apple at his new baby brother once, Then he’d sit and tell the baby how much he loved him. My daughter was wild about her two little brothers. It all depends.