Getting old is the process of threading your way between problems that come more often, hit harder, and require you to aim for some other trouble just to miss this one. When you lose control of the process, you’re all but gone.
My mom did that. My dad did maybe better: He had a big heart attack while still pretty healthy and lived 3 days after.
I’m 78. I had “fun” for the first time pretty much ever yesterday. “Save it for a rainy day” & the Holocaust are both in my DNA. So busy attending to the druthers of others I forgot to suss what I myself might find delightful. Didn’t even know. It was swell. Now I know what people are talking about. “Fun”. how cool is that? better late than never.
My best friend has died by age of 47. You should plan ahead, for old age, but also your family to protect them, in case you will accidentially die tomorrow. And you should live, now, enjoy it and do good things, as you can not make up for lost time.
Dementia/Alzheimer’s are thought to be hereditary. If your ancestors had, chances are you are at least susceptible to it. How was your dad’s side insofar as this goes?
This is the nightmare that people who have relatives suffering from this disease… This is the nightmare that lives in their mind for as long as their mind lasts. Scary isn’t it.?.?.?.
I was once a professor of physics and astronomy, and now, at 82, I have to be reminded to take my morning pills. (I AM NOT ASKING FOR SYMPATHY! I enjoy what I can do!)
My stepfather was a life insurance salesman for 50 years. But when our agency got a CNA contract for what was then the best nursing home policies in the business, he refused to purchase one on himself. He said he would never end up in a nursing home.
I put a policy on my mom, behind his back.
He ended up in a nursing home with Alzheimer’s. Fortunately (deep sigh) he did not last long. Only 6 months. It put a strain on the finances but didn’t wipe out Mom.
I paid those premiums for 27 years, even when things were tight and I had to short other bills.
Last year I had to put Mom into a memory care facility. $6500 a month. Paid in full by the insurance.
It is a VERY nice place, as far as that sort of thing goes. She is safe, she is well cared for, she is comfortable and the staff in this particular facility are absolutely amazing. It was built by a man who saw the deficiencies in other facilities when his parents had to be placed into care.
Ladies and gentlemen, unless you have several million dollars stashed away for this potential expense, I urge you to look into nursing home coverage. Yes, it is expensive. But look around you and see the impact this horrible condition has on your friends and neighbors. Caring for a dementia patient is a 24/7/365 job that requires help. A lot of help. Over time it has a massive impact on your life, your family relationships and a host of other problems.
Get the insurance. Don’t leave this problem for your family.
Concretionist over 4 years ago
Getting old is the process of threading your way between problems that come more often, hit harder, and require you to aim for some other trouble just to miss this one. When you lose control of the process, you’re all but gone.
My mom did that. My dad did maybe better: He had a big heart attack while still pretty healthy and lived 3 days after.
babka Premium Member over 4 years ago
I’m 78. I had “fun” for the first time pretty much ever yesterday. “Save it for a rainy day” & the Holocaust are both in my DNA. So busy attending to the druthers of others I forgot to suss what I myself might find delightful. Didn’t even know. It was swell. Now I know what people are talking about. “Fun”. how cool is that? better late than never.
Spock over 4 years ago
My best friend has died by age of 47. You should plan ahead, for old age, but also your family to protect them, in case you will accidentially die tomorrow. And you should live, now, enjoy it and do good things, as you can not make up for lost time.
Teto85 Premium Member over 4 years ago
Dementia/Alzheimer’s are thought to be hereditary. If your ancestors had, chances are you are at least susceptible to it. How was your dad’s side insofar as this goes?
S&C = Dismayed&Depressed over 4 years ago
This is the nightmare that people who have relatives suffering from this disease… This is the nightmare that lives in their mind for as long as their mind lasts. Scary isn’t it.?.?.?.
dgmiller over 4 years ago
I was once a professor of physics and astronomy, and now, at 82, I have to be reminded to take my morning pills. (I AM NOT ASKING FOR SYMPATHY! I enjoy what I can do!)
Scoutmaster77 over 4 years ago
This looks familiar.
pamela welch Premium Member over 4 years ago
I’m so sorry Ted :-(
Andylit Premium Member over 4 years ago
My stepfather was a life insurance salesman for 50 years. But when our agency got a CNA contract for what was then the best nursing home policies in the business, he refused to purchase one on himself. He said he would never end up in a nursing home.
I put a policy on my mom, behind his back.
He ended up in a nursing home with Alzheimer’s. Fortunately (deep sigh) he did not last long. Only 6 months. It put a strain on the finances but didn’t wipe out Mom.
I paid those premiums for 27 years, even when things were tight and I had to short other bills.
Last year I had to put Mom into a memory care facility. $6500 a month. Paid in full by the insurance.
It is a VERY nice place, as far as that sort of thing goes. She is safe, she is well cared for, she is comfortable and the staff in this particular facility are absolutely amazing. It was built by a man who saw the deficiencies in other facilities when his parents had to be placed into care.
Ladies and gentlemen, unless you have several million dollars stashed away for this potential expense, I urge you to look into nursing home coverage. Yes, it is expensive. But look around you and see the impact this horrible condition has on your friends and neighbors. Caring for a dementia patient is a 24/7/365 job that requires help. A lot of help. Over time it has a massive impact on your life, your family relationships and a host of other problems.
Get the insurance. Don’t leave this problem for your family.