Cathy can call it anything she wants but let’s face it: a gift of any kind this time of year is a Christmas gift. It’s just as simple as that. So if she and her friend, Jeanne, have a “no gift” pact, then she should honor it because it will only make her friend feel bad if Cathy gives her a present (to “uplift the spirits of guests she may have who might sit on her sofa”) and she doesn’t have the same kind of gift for Cathy’s “guests” in return.
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Hi, rgcviper! :-)
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Hello and Happy Tuesday, fellow Cathy fans. Hope everyone has/had a really nice day today! :-)
I’m with Gretchen’s Mom… If they have an agreement, then honor it. Personally, it is annoying if I either don’t want extra stuff in my life, or maybe I don’t want the hassle of trying to figure out what someone else wants, or whatever reason really, and then the other person does the opposite, which causes me to stress and wonder if they really care about what we talked about. Pretty rude, imo.
Hello Cathy friends! Happy Tuesday! Have a nice day, all!
I’m with Gretchen’s Mom and lightenup. Honour any agreements you have made. It is the honourable thing to do after all. I remember an agreement among my wife, her sisters, and her mom – only the kids get gifts this year. All agreed. But one couple did not have kids (yet) so some people bought gifts for them ‘so they would not feel left out’. Right. Another couple were upset because they did not get gifts and other adults did. So much for ‘Merry Christmas’. Way to stressful for me.
I can just hear the gears turning in Cathy’s head during her gift-giving dilemma. I have the slight feeling she might be overthinking this one, though …
I agree with the majority…gifting is mostly a pain…I tried to have a Christmas Eve party with friends…some of them Jewish…with a no gifts policy…lasted 1 year….and then everybody started bringing gifts.
SunflowerGirl100 over 4 years ago
How about instead of rationalizations just say, “I saw this and thought of you.”
Gretchen's Mom over 4 years ago
Cathy can call it anything she wants but let’s face it: a gift of any kind this time of year is a Christmas gift. It’s just as simple as that. So if she and her friend, Jeanne, have a “no gift” pact, then she should honor it because it will only make her friend feel bad if Cathy gives her a present (to “uplift the spirits of guests she may have who might sit on her sofa”) and she doesn’t have the same kind of gift for Cathy’s “guests” in return.
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Hi, rgcviper! :-)
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Hello and Happy Tuesday, fellow Cathy fans. Hope everyone has/had a really nice day today! :-)
lightenup Premium Member over 4 years ago
I’m with Gretchen’s Mom… If they have an agreement, then honor it. Personally, it is annoying if I either don’t want extra stuff in my life, or maybe I don’t want the hassle of trying to figure out what someone else wants, or whatever reason really, and then the other person does the opposite, which causes me to stress and wonder if they really care about what we talked about. Pretty rude, imo.
Hello Cathy friends! Happy Tuesday! Have a nice day, all!
hendelca Premium Member over 4 years ago
I’m with Gretchen’s Mom and lightenup. Honour any agreements you have made. It is the honourable thing to do after all. I remember an agreement among my wife, her sisters, and her mom – only the kids get gifts this year. All agreed. But one couple did not have kids (yet) so some people bought gifts for them ‘so they would not feel left out’. Right. Another couple were upset because they did not get gifts and other adults did. So much for ‘Merry Christmas’. Way to stressful for me.
Please enjoy your day!
summerdog over 4 years ago
“Kittens”! She thinks a book of kittens is THE perfect gift? Read it once and give it away. Maybe in the Christmas toy collection box next year.
rgcviper over 4 years ago
I can just hear the gears turning in Cathy’s head during her gift-giving dilemma. I have the slight feeling she might be overthinking this one, though …
HI, MOM. Hello, Clan.
lindz.coop Premium Member over 4 years ago
I agree with the majority…gifting is mostly a pain…I tried to have a Christmas Eve party with friends…some of them Jewish…with a no gifts policy…lasted 1 year….and then everybody started bringing gifts.