You do know why the elves were called ‘the gentle folk’, don’t you? Because it was hoped that the name would influence their nature and calling them by their true nature would only make them stronger. That’s also why they were propitiated and symbols and charms were hung outside the house, to keep them away.
in my house they aren’t elves. They are fairies. That would mess up the punch line though
A hug for mom would go a long way here…