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   rayannina said, 29 days ago

   That’s why you have a little sister, Holly! :D

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   ejcapulet said, 29 days ago

   Tough beans, Holly, your mistakes are your own problem.

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   MizMisanthrope said, 29 days ago

   “Your life is what you make it.”

   Not everything that happens to you is your fault. Please stop perpetuating such bullsh*t, tired cliches. Not only is the game stacked against you from birth, but you can try your best to do everything right, and still end up in a bad place.

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   PhoebeDog said, 29 days ago

   Unfortunately, for once I have to agree with Holly–although you do need to be prepared. My husband and I worked our tails off, put ourselves through grad school, and saved like mad, seldom going to eat or taking vacations. Then he was diagnosed with a chronic, incurable illness that has changed our lives dramatically (thank goodness for the savings, though a nice house and a couple of kids would have been preferable). Just because you have a plan doesn’t mean you get the results you planned for.

   Val should know that better than anyone. I’m sure she didn’t plan to be a young widow.

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   shadowwriter said, 29 days ago

   Time and unforeseen occurrence befalls us all.

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   Fairportfan2 said, 29 days ago

   Val’s not talking about that kind of thng.

   As a young widow, she knows that sort of thing is something that happens and you can’t do anything about it.

   But you can choose to not get pregnant at sixteen.

   You can choose not to take too many drugs.

   When you first have your driver’s license, you can choose not to drive drunk…

   Those are the sorts of things we’re discussing here.

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   alshoney said, 29 days ago

   Amen, Fairportfan2. I don’t have a choice as to the things that life hands me. I do have a choice as to how I respond to those things. I was widowed at age 40, with 5 sons to raise. I know of which I speak.

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   Robert said, 29 days ago

   While it is true that many things will happen to you that are not your fault, how you react to those things is. That is what defines your character. You can either choose to scapegoat others and life or do the best with what you have.

   I always choose to be around people who laugh (and like comics ;-) rather than those who complain and spend their time blaming everything on the raw deal they received.

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   MizMisanthrope said, 29 days ago

   Yeah, yeah, you have a choice as to how you respond to things….yet another worn cliche that doesn’t really help anyone. Besides, the people who choose to laugh are often simply putting on an act. I don’t believe in putting on false fronts, and by acting out my emotions, it’s easier for me to get it all out, deal with it, and put it behind me, rather than hiding it because people like you will get turned off by my true feelings.

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    Doctor Toon said, 29 days ago

    Feces occurs

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    DavidDow said, 29 days ago

    Lots of pregnancies are accidental, Fairport, or the results of rape. Thus, we must ensure that all women have the rights over their own bodies.

    Holly is correct to think of luck or chance. Val is correct to insist that we write our own lives. No one has mentioned that people growing up in different places, in different classes, will have a difficult time ensuring the same degree of individual liberty.

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    JFri said, 29 days ago

    **She sure WILL!! The rate she’s going,
    she will be under qualified to flip burgers!!**

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    kab2rb said, 29 days ago

    Where I work pt, and the place where I work at parents want there teenagers to go but can’t. Teenagers don’t want to be home, home is usually boring and their peers seem better to them. Parents are frustruted. A lot teens do make wrong choices, although there are some that make the choose the right way.
    SS is fairly good at touching some basses of life. And other times very good entertainment.
    My grandparents long gone where never like their grandma. And my own widow mom is nothing like their grandma.

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    Roger said, 29 days ago

    Actually, if you do a good job of preparing for life YOU WILL BE BETTER OFF. If you are struck by a bad accident or some other event outside of your control, you’re still better off if you have saved a lot instead of living wildly and don’t have any money saved.

    Just because you do everything right doesn’t mean you’re life will be all smooth sailing, but if a storm comes, it’s definitely better that you took care of your boat and kept it in good condition rather than find yourself in the storm in a leaking boat!

    Of course, you could just expect the nanny state government to take care of you, that way you don’t have to save, you can do drugs, eat like a pig, get no exercise and then expect others to pay for all your mistakes. I’m afraid a lot of people prefer that route, to doing what’s right.

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    ireg said, 28 days ago

    I was divorced before my son was 2. I continued with my life. My son and I had a lot of adventures.

    One time when we were riding our tandem bike with a group of cyclists, another rider was shocked to learn that I was a single mom. He told me of a single mom friend who never did things with her child because she was single.

    I cannot imagine anyone else being the author of my life story. We are each dealt a hand, how it is played is totally up to the individual.