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commented on Luann
2 days ago
It won’t happen because Toni has already told her the performance is off. But the fact is, children of irresponsible parents go one of two ways. They either become parentified, taking responsibility at a far too early age, or they openly rebel and become the anthesis. Shannon appears to be assuming too much responsibility for one her age. She will defend her father, no matter what he does. She showed a great deal of interest in performing at the follies, and it’s a real shame she probably won’t be able to. A caring adult would help her be able to do so, despite her father’s absence. She could still take much pride in doing so.
Of course she wanted to perform with her father, AND she wanted to perform for an audience. She has been practicing her dance all day—at home, in the shower—everywhere. When Tiffany dressed her up, she became even more excited about performing. She should not be kept from performing just because Jonah didn’t show up.
Exactly. Tiff helped her and she got excited again. She could still be excited about performing, with or without her dad. I know she would prefer having him there, but I hope someone volunteers to help her with her performance.
In many ways the dad is younger than Shannon.
She was excited about doing the act with her dad, yes, but she was also excited about getting up in front of the audience and performing for its own merit. At least she should be given the chance to do it.
I never said she should not think of her dad as a hero. I would never say anything negative about her dad. I would simply allow her to express her feelings about his not showing up. She has dealt with this all her life, and would probably have an excuse for him. But she should express her feelings about it. She’s no dummy.
Children deal with feelings every day. Don’t short change them because they’re young. They do it in increments, not all at once. The trick is to deal with the problems as they come up, a little at a time. Right now, the problem is that she has anticipated the performance for quite some time, and is very upset about possibly not being able to. Deal with that by finding a way to allow her to perform. Then give her love and support and encourage her to talk about her feelings about her dad not showing up. If others assume she is just a brat, tell them it’s none of their business.
They could also change the order of the acts. Shannon doesn’t have to go on stage next just because it’s written on a piece of paper.
Of course she wanted to do the act with her dad, but his is a chronic problem and she knows it. She will ultimately learn to depend on herself and others as she grows up, and will learn she doesn’t have to give up everything because of his irresponsibility.
If I were there, I would play for her and lead the audience in singing. She could do her act, and then deal with her feelings about her dad after the show. She would at least learn that other people can love her and help her.
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