Thanks for your input. I have been in that very position. I can choose to be offended or not. I choose not to do so.
I was small as a child, and did not have a very good hold on my temper. As a result, I was teased a great deal. I learned that words only hurt you if you let them.
And the Eenie/Meenie rhyme may have been that way when and where YOU learned it, but in the deep south you caught something else by the toe. As a matter of fact, there was an incident on one of the now-defunct low-fare airlines, where a flight attendant (who was way too young to know the history) went to move people to their seats by saying: “Eenie Meanie Miney Moe/ Take your seats It’s time to go.”
The airline was sued (successfully) by a passenger who claimed it was racist, and she was fired.
You are right: Bobby Flay is not racist, to my knowledge, but he is quite abusive. Still a hostile environment, in one person’s opinion.