Without sounding patronizing, I know a few gay couples that have children. What I observed is they are typically more engaged with their kids school, social environment and make a concerted effort to create a loving and secure home environment.
I am a straight male and have a gay sibling who has opened my eyes in many ways to this whole discussion. My sister (and many others) all repeated one point: they didn’t elect to change their sexual preference, they were born that way. Like it or not, our society is finally (hopefully) evolving to a point where we can truly accept this whole scenario without prejudice and discrimination.