re: number 6
that was typical of GenX. I didn’t date until I was best friends with a Swedish exchange student and suddenly five women wanted to date me. I H8 the “trophy” nonsense. It was so striking that I put it in one of my books:.
“When I was in college, I was asked by a woman a few years older why I didn’t have a girlfriend, due to the fact that I was “as social as I was.” I was involved in activities on campus, and used to bicycle long distance and hike. But something really, really basic was needed: in order for the non-”bad boys" to have girlfriends, you had to have women in general actually willing to date someone outside the 10% to 20% that they were chasing and sleeping with. If most of the women wanted the guys of bad character, well, there really wasn’t much the rest of us could do about it. “SOL” as the indelicate acronym was back then. ".“In the case of some men, it was sometimes so simple that no woman gave them that first chance at a date. There was and is even still today a strange "trophy-effect” that I’ve seen multiple times with GenX women. When a man started dating, other women instantly also wanted to date him. If a man was not dating, no woman even noticed him. I imagine the psychologists or sociologists have a term for that. It was the standard model both times I went to college and even today, I still see many GenX women my age doing it. "