Congratulations to all of those who call themselves Fathers and who have kids that call them, Dad, Pop, or Papa. Any male can become a father, but it takes an involved father to be a dad.Being a Faddah can be a muddah.Happy Father’s Day, Gents.And thanks to the Mothers who put up with us as we learned how to become Fathers.Respectfully,C.
Respectful Troll, excellent comment.My first reaction on seeing the cartoon: Enjoy them while they’re like that, Dad. I’m helping raise the 2nd generation, after the 1st decided it was too much trouble.
Many of my friends who “served” had the same thing as fathers that I did, PTSD made it difficult to feel “attachment” and “love”, even for our kids. I was lucky enough to have a spouse who helped me through over three difficult decades before getting “help” with the problem. Many were not so lucky. Also, one of the greatest things my kids DID understand, as they grew a little older, was why that distance existed, and both said “it’s okay, Dad.”
Now, after 13 years “service” my son is having the same problems, but at least folks are there for him much sooner to offer help, and guidance. (He also calls me frequently, as Dad has “been there, done that”, and can understand that just listening is often doing, a LOT!)
Sorry to hear your situation, really, Ima, but it explains a lot.
chazandru almost 11 years ago
Congratulations to all of those who call themselves Fathers and who have kids that call them, Dad, Pop, or Papa. Any male can become a father, but it takes an involved father to be a dad.Being a Faddah can be a muddah.Happy Father’s Day, Gents.And thanks to the Mothers who put up with us as we learned how to become Fathers.Respectfully,C.
Frodo59 almost 11 years ago
Respectful Troll, excellent comment.My first reaction on seeing the cartoon: Enjoy them while they’re like that, Dad. I’m helping raise the 2nd generation, after the 1st decided it was too much trouble.
Dtroutma almost 11 years ago
Many of my friends who “served” had the same thing as fathers that I did, PTSD made it difficult to feel “attachment” and “love”, even for our kids. I was lucky enough to have a spouse who helped me through over three difficult decades before getting “help” with the problem. Many were not so lucky. Also, one of the greatest things my kids DID understand, as they grew a little older, was why that distance existed, and both said “it’s okay, Dad.”
Now, after 13 years “service” my son is having the same problems, but at least folks are there for him much sooner to offer help, and guidance. (He also calls me frequently, as Dad has “been there, done that”, and can understand that just listening is often doing, a LOT!)
Sorry to hear your situation, really, Ima, but it explains a lot.